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pwrice
Oct 25, 2010, 12:24 PM
After 15 years, three kids and a household and now she is gone. She is my whole world and she will not even talk to me right now. We have had a lot of stress lately financially and our 12 year old daughter was mollested and I have changed since then being angry towards my family. She left last Sunday 10/17/10 and said she needed space to figure out her life and she agreed to counseling, is there hope? I love this woman more than ever, she is my rock, my other (better) half, I am so confused

Alty
Oct 25, 2010, 12:59 PM
If she agreed to counseling than I believe there's hope. It sounds like it's just been too much for her and her rock (you) crumbled under the pressure. At times of stress it's hard to stick together, but even harder to handle things alone.

When you go to counseling be honest about everything that's going on, let her know how you feel about what happened to your daughter, how it's affecting you and your relationship.

talaniman
Oct 25, 2010, 08:59 PM
As long as your still trying together there is always hope.

answerme_tender
Oct 26, 2010, 09:49 AM
Take this time at these counseling sessions to get everything out in the open. Not just you, but for her. Your not the only one effected by what happened to your daughter. The family as a whole are also victims, and you will all have to learn to become survivors. Part of healing is knowing and accepting that you can't go back, you cannot erase what happened. But you can strengthen those bonds by learning how to move forward.
The counselor will be able to give you ways to start that healing as a family. When one rock falls it usually hits others on its way down and causes them to also fall!