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elsily
Oct 24, 2010, 09:45 PM
I am my fiancés firs and only girl that he has ever been with. He is starting to doubt us and is wondering if it matters how much background dating you have had skews your idea of the perfect relationship. I know that I love Him with all my heart and then some I would most likely jump in front of a bus if I knew it would save his life. And he says he's loves me so much that he would push me out of the way so that I would not save him from the buss. But I have plenty of Jerks under my sleeve that came before him and he does not. So does it really matter?

mystific
Oct 24, 2010, 10:10 PM
What's in the past is exactly that.. the past. Whether you choose to or not to share that information of 'significant other's' is your choice.

It has no bearing on your relationship now with him as no relationship is the same. If anything it gives you the experience and wisdom to learn from the worst and enhance on the good.

He should focus on the fact that you'd leap from tall buildings for him and only him and that its only him in your future.

talaniman
Oct 25, 2010, 07:00 AM
I think how well you have been working very well together is a bigger factor than previous experiences.

I wish
Oct 25, 2010, 08:04 AM
Experience might make a difference in terms of seeing what works and what doesn't.

But at the end of the day, if you one of you have doubts, then try working on it together. If you can find an understanding for every doubt, then it sounds like a great relationship to me.

mmresd
Oct 25, 2010, 09:17 AM
While I think that a person's history is important, I strongly believe that a person's current actions, ideas, and thoughts over all are more important because he is not with you when you are dating someone else, you both are exclusive to each other so don't let your past bother you, or him, and just try to focus on the relationship that you are in now. He is new at this and probably doesn't understand this yet so when you talk to him seriously about things make sure that you take the initiative and be confident on what you say, because since he knows that you have more experience, then you can look at this at little more maturely than he can. Just talk, that's all.

Good Luck,

Javi