Hi I'm almost 17years old, no matter how much I try I can only remember bits and pieces of my childhood. For instance, I can remember being 4 and my mother teaching me pre school stuff, then turning 5 and telling her I wanted to be home schooled, besides remembering doing dance, and learning to swim and belonging to a swim team to this day that's all I remember until I was 8, and well my only memory of then is that I had to undress in the kitchen and in front of both her and dad then she would carry me to the bath. There was one time I fell asleep waiting for mom to give me my bath and when I woke up dad was taking pictures of me sleeping nude in the tub. Then from the time of which I can remember I was 9-10 years old and had to shower with my mother and that continued until I was12 to 13 years old. Beside these short memories there's not much more I remember. I need to know is there a chance I was molested by one or both of them and I blocked it all out? Also over the past year my mother wanted me, her, and my father to lay in my twin size bed to watch a movie, (my bed as you know being a twin bed would not hold all three of us) and we have a large den in our house that we can all have our own chair but they always insist I sit between them, then this past summer while on vacation my father had to work the first two days so my mother and I had to go alone, the problem is mom wanted me to sleep with her while dad wasn't there, she's also for the past 6 months has been wanting me to kiss her all the time when nobody is around and when I don't she get's pist off that I won't. To me at almost 17 does not seem normal to me it never really has. Please someone help me understand if I did block these memories cause they did something to me or do I have a memory rpoblem?? Thank You Oh yea mom is O.C.D.

How old are you really?

Well you remember more of 4 and 5 than I do and I most likely had a wonderful childhood. Some people of course remember little of a childhood.

I will be 17 in January

Not true I have friends that remmeber just about everything from the time they were 3 which is what made me wonder why I only have here and there memories.

At 17, you're having a problem with how your parents are acting towards you, and haven't consulted with a school counselor?

The majority of children remember very little about their childhood, since most of it was humdrum and boring -- go to school, make the bed in the morning, do homework, play ball outside with someone. I had a wonderful childhood and remember only three or four things that happened before I was ten.

When I was in grad school, I studied children's memory-keeping. Many of their memories are flawed and over-exaggerated or incorrect. I'll give you the title of a terrific book to read, if you're interested.

Yea I have been talking to my school counselor and because she works at the school as a sub teacher they aren't giving me the answer I feel I need. And my mother and father WILL NOT let me talk to a REAL counselor because that would make her look bad.

Please don't use the Comment box to post an answer; use the answer box.

So what answer do you "need"?

See she smacked me near the end of last school year and I reported it to the school counselorbecause it left a mark on my face, and I was told to say I fell at first then told to tell the truth, because she works at the school

What answer do you "need"?

I thought they would call child services and they didn't so I had a friend call, they came to the house and said that she is aloud to hit me, but I did nothing wrong to get hit and her ring left a hole in my chin where she cought me

They told her to let me go talk to a real counselor and they trow EVERYTHING away outside of the house so I couldn't get the numbers that they were given and like I said that would make my mother look bad so she won't alow me to see a counselor

Child Services said your mother is allowed to hit you and leave a dent in your face? (PLEASE use the answer box.)

aloud = out loud
allowed = permitted

You sound just like everyone else I try to get help from, and that is that nobody believes me when I try to tell them the hell I live in. Let me add also I DO NOT DO any of the wild things my friends do and 90% of the time I can't go anywhere's

I'm a STRIGHT A student and compare to my friends I'm an angel, they all drink, smoke weed and cigarettes where I don't so I'm not the typical teen that says I misunderstood or not allowed to do anything

I was a teacher and cannot for the life of me understand how you are considered a straight A student -- certainly not in spelling/language arts!

So Child Service has failed you, and the adult world has failed you. Maybe that's because what you are saying makes no sense. I'm still waiting to find out what you "need" to hear from the counselor who is a sub teacher.

Yes I'm iterested in that book please, and yea they did tell her that and I felt soooo helpless

Well of course a school counselor is a real counselor, and it is rare that they also "sub" at least more than a few hours till a regular sub comes in.

And if you got hit, you can call the police, esp if there is proof you were hit, and children servies would not if there was really proof of a hit would never tell you she is allowed to hit you.

I am sorry your story is really not that believable and then add to it, your claim you are straight A and your spelling is not near a grade student.

So how about telling us what is really going on.

Sorry I'm upset cause she beating the **** out of me, and yea I have a 4.0 thank you, you sound just like all the other teachers I thought would help me, I didn't ask to be judged on my spelling or langage art that wasn't my question your no help

sorry i'm upset cause she beating the **** out of me, and yea i have a 4.0 thank you, you sound just like all the other teachers i thought would help me, i didnt ask to be judged on my spelling or langage art that wasn't my question your no help
What help do you want from us? You say Child Services says it's okay for your mother to beat you bloody, and that no teacher or other adult wants to help you.

If you are straight with us, we will help you, but so far, I'm not believing much you say. Your spelling and composition skills are terrible. How's math? What's 0.05 as a per cent? What's an inclined plane? How many bones are in the human body? A straight A student can answer those questions.

Incline plane ? Someone flying up a hill

But yes, while there are a few bad teachers, and even bad counselors, I worked with a special children's program some years ago, plus raised 4 adult boys who went though public school.
And had my rounds with children services.

But basically what you are telling us is not following normal procedures. I would have believed you if maybe just one of the things happened. But sorry if someone told you she could hit you, it would because they did not believe your story either and was basically being a >>> back to you.

And you will always be judged on how you represent yourself, and often even how you look or appear to others. That is life, so get used to that.