I have been with my girlfirend for 10 years now. We split up once for a few months. She is/was the only girl I have ever wanted. I'm not just saying that because I am in love , I am saying this because I have always known it. I never wanted anyone else. I had plenty of oppertunities to cheat on her but I never did. I am proud to say that. But I can't say the same for her. She had cheated on me before and got pregnant with another guy. She kept it, we stayed togeather . Then I find out she was married to him also, but she kept telling me she didn't love him and that she was going to get a divorce. I thought I would hate the child. Now I know I love him with all my heart , I wish he was mine but he isn't . So we still stayed togeather , its been about 4 years now living like this. She lives with the father/ her "husband" but I see her all the time and we all get along. We have all learned to live like tgis for now. But now I find out there is another guy in the picture. She has done all the things that she shouldn't of with this new guy. All the lie's are out, everyone knows everything. I know I can't see her anymore, I know that she needs help. She knows it too. We split up on new years night. Once and for all. But the thing is I have no friends. She was my best friend . So now the woman I have ever loved is gone. My best friend is gone. And the boy I wish was mine is. HOW do I keep living??

Dude you go to get over her and start doing things that you enjoy.
Go to new places meet new people.
Start going out you'll feel a lot better you just need something to replace her.

Not easy to rebuild your life after having it invested for so long with someone who is gone. But with dedication to yourself you can start the process of getting to know who you are and finding out about the things that you like to do and enjoying your new life. That's how you rebuild, and it starts with you. I know it won't be easy you will go through hell but the good news is if you stick with it you will be happy with your new found freedom and away from the drama and baggage of the past. Just hang in there and get busy and keep working. Good Luck.

First of all she is not your best friend.

Best friends do not do that.

As far as lies coming out, truth being told. Well how could you let it go on so long.

You did not have a real relationship with this women, it was all fantasy.

I know this is a hard lesson, but this person was never with you.

So why should you mourn the loss of something you never really had.

There is only the future. There is only looking ahead. Without her.

Joe

Man let me put it in this way.. there is a saying... 'when I was in high school I was dying to get admitted in college,when I was in college I was dying to have a girlfriend,when I got a girlfriend I was dying to get a job,when I got a job I was dying to get married,when I got married I was dying to have children,when I got children I was dying to bring them up,now I am dying and I found out something... I have forgott to live...

Dude enjoy every sec... with her or without her doesnot really matter.

First and foremost I’m sorry your going through this pain but I’m very happy for you. I’m happy because this was not a good situation for you at all. You’ll know it someday but this woman was not your girlfriend or even your friend. I’m not sure how it could go on this long but sometimes we get caught in the fantasy and not the reality of a situation. As you move forward try to see the reality of the situation no matter what you do.

Also I’m guessing your afraid of something which keeps you living in the fantasy and afraid to accept reality. Deep down you had to know this wasn’t an ideal situation. So what stopped you from getting out? Find that out so you can help yourself move forward next time.