fightforlove
Oct 20, 2010, 07:17 AM
First of all, I'm a 17 year old college student and this girl is in the same college with me and is also 17. We've known each other for almost 5 months now and we got into a "friends" stage just recently. The problem here is we already got so attached to other on our first term(it's now our 2nd term) because we hit it right so fast. But most probably our relationship affected our studies since we both failed some subjects(one for her, two for me). It's really weird that we are now on this "friends/best friends" situation since we got so intimate with each other the last term. Saying "I love you's" and cheesy stuffs like that. She also mentioned that sooner or later we'll be 'official'. But that was the first term. Now, A WHOLE LOT changed. We had talks recently and now she decided that she just wants to be friends RIGHT NOW. Key word is "RIGHT NOW" but she also said to "Try and find other girls.... just try, please :( I'm just gonna hurt you if we grow together :((" but she contradicts what she says whenever I ask if it's over. She'll just say "I never said there's no chance anymore".She also got teared up on one of our talks that made me more confused. I'm not giving up though because I still feel there's a chance. What I feel that is bothering her is her studies, recent events and most of all her parents probably. Recent events include getting drunk and making out with a guy which she told me and said she didn't remember anything only her friends told her. I believe her though and I don't have the right to confront the guy since I'm not yet 'in a relationship' with the girl and she also told me not to and I promised not to. I'm going to wait 'til she clears up everything in her mind and probably that will be on the next term break(2-3 months from now) and since we still see each other once a week(she says it's still okay to do this... we used to see each other almost everyday on the first term) I think I will sense signals if she wants me still or not. But so far I we still talk and stuff but not as sweet as before. My questions are is it right to wait? And did she do this to slowly let me go or just wants to know me better?
Thanks.
Sorry if it's not clear... I got a lot of things jumbled inside my mind. So please ask if you want more info about my status right now because I really really need some advice. Anyway the bottomline is she's always giving me mixed signals. Really hard to read her crazy mind :)) haha
Thanks.
Sorry if it's not clear... I got a lot of things jumbled inside my mind. So please ask if you want more info about my status right now because I really really need some advice. Anyway the bottomline is she's always giving me mixed signals. Really hard to read her crazy mind :)) haha