I have been very depressed lately about everything. I'm only 15. I just started high school about 2 months ago and everything is already going bad. I'm losing half my friends first of all, and on top of that I have real bad issues about my appearance. I really do think I am the ugliest person alive. I can't even get ready in the morning because every time I look in the mirror I'm absolutely disgusted in what I see. All my family used to be beautiful in high school and I feel like I turned out to be the black sheep. My best friend is so gorgeous and gets all the guys and when I'm around her I feel like the odd ball. I know I'm not pretty at all. And every guy I like seems to think the same. I really do hate how I am and how I look. I wish I could change everything. Help me. I need confidence so bad and no one can help me what so ever.

Keep in mind that you are still growing, and that will change some more.

You might be going through an awkward stage, which by the way everyone goes through at one point or another in their life as a growing teenager.

Why do you think you are losing friends? Could it be because you are down on yourself all of the time and they are getting sick of the negativity?

I'm a firm believer that you work with what you have. For example, if you don't like your hair style, you change it.

What is it about the way you look that you don't like?

What is it about the way you are/act that you don't like?

What would you say is your best feature? Your worst?

Are you losing friends because of your appearance or because of how you down yourself?

First off, freshman year in high school in the beginning is always the worst, I remember mine. Friends do change and you have to accept that. Always dwelling on your negative aspects will get you no where, instead of thinking about those, highlight the positive things about yourself.
Talk to your best friend. See what she thinks, if she laughs and blows you off then she's not really a best friend and she may be a problem.
This is just another stage in your life use it to grow and develop. You need to fully understand and accept yourself. Then fix what you think is unacceptable to YOU, no one else. Don't lose yourself on this quest to try and look like what everyone thinks is pretty and cool. That's not worth it.
Everyday say something new that you like about yourself it really works. Look at yourself and decide why you don't like what you see. Is it based off what you think or what society thinks?

It's all about being you and figuring out who you are, and being in high school is the most trying time for this...
It's funny I'm only 22, and manohi man did I ever think high school was a huge waste of life when I was there, but now I miss it more than ever.
You really learn a lot there, not just education wise, but life wise and yourself... you find out who you want to surround yourself with and who you don't. If your losing friends for stupid reasons like someone spreading a rumor, or because they think your "not cool enough", screw them, they are shallow and don't deserve your friendship! It could be a negativity thing too, if you do get down on yourself around everyone... it could cause unwanted attention from people seeking out someone with low self esteem to pick on, it could be driving away your friends. Though don't bottle it all up either, because that doesn't solve anything. What I used to do to help myself is draw, I am an artist.. and it's gotten me though the toughest times. Hobbies can really help take your mind off feeling so bad and it can also make you feel good about something you do. Another thing is making lists, I used to write out my opinions on things, the stuff I did like and didn't like when I was by myself and had only my input. I'd notice how often I would change them just to "fit in" at a conversation at school, people can tell when you aren't being yourself and they don't like it. So I stopped doing that, and started saying how I really felt about things, it stirred up conversations some good some bad but in the end you attract the people more like yourself, you have a better chance of making good long lasting friends that way, and meeting guys who are really attracted to you for you. I'm not saying intentionally start up conflict... but when you feel someone trying to influence you make sure they know you know what you like and say it :)
That is about the best thing you can do, is be yourself at all times! Don't bend or waver to someone else's will because you think it'll make them like you more, it won't they will just think you are a pushover and you don't want to give off that vibe, people will just start to take advantage of that fact.
If you don't know who you are, or what you like... well, you might always feel like that it's part of the process of finding yourself. But I bet you have a favourite type of music, or you know what foods you absolutely love! Start there, you already know some things about yourself and don't know what else you like... well that's now life, finding out what makes you happy and get through every day!
Once you can be confident in yourself.. by at least knowing what you can about yourself and sticking to it (and you obviously over the years change your mind on stuff! ) boys can sense it, really, and they come up and talk to you. Or you talk to them, and maybe it sparks something nice! But boys... they are a whole different tale let me tell you... another thing all together about high school is the dating D: and it can be a struggle and it can be hell but we all have to live through it... hang in there!
I haven't checked out to see if there is a way to stay in contact with people on this site, but if you ever need to talk I'm on the computer a lot! As a chick who went through high school hating every second of it and herself, I can relate... it's ups and downs, but it evens out eventually :)
Feel better!

"Then fix what you think is unacceptable to YOU, no one else. don't lose yourself on this quest to try and look like what everyone thinks is pretty and cool. thats not worth it."
So so so true!

Hey I guess we can help each other I'm almost 14 n feel like u

Except I'm a guy n can't get with girls :P