OK, I'm a teenage girl who have never had a boyfriend or any relationships before so I really need help on this, so I meet this good guy at school and my first impression was just I'm not interested in you. But he started adding me on Facebook, msn , and skype , and I didn't even know where he got my skype from , I asked him then he was like I got it from your fb info(he stalked my facebook(;) so I'm like hmm, this guy might be interested in me , so we talked more on msn. One day, I was having a group conver on msn with him and 2 of my friends, the next day my friends who were talking on that group conver with him and me told me that he must likes me. So I was like really, because I was wondering about it too. I asked one of my friend to ask him if he likes me, I was so excited, but then he said no. I was broken without realizing that I was falling for him... I knew by the moment that I like him. About 2 weeks passed, one of my friend who is a close friend of him told me that he likes me from the first time, she said she was talking to him and they went way back, she told me that he said, yea I like her a bit but she said she's not going to be here next year so.. yea I was so happy that I was going to cry. So I started talking to him again. I was waiting for him to say he likes me but he didn't say the word. I can't wait because I really wanted to know if he really means it so I asked that friend of mine who is close to him to tell him to tell me he likes me, but instead that friend told him all that I said, she was like 'she wanted you to tell her you like her' <<that was what she said to him. The day after him and me talked on msn and he mentioned about that I was so embarrassed. He said that I was the one who start liking first I was like noo! I don't know what was he trying to do but it seems like he believed that I was the one who started this first. But in reality it wasn't. Then he was like so we both like each other , but I'm not ready for a relationship. I was so confused. The next day, we went ice skating, we hold hands and he followed me off when I fell and get hurt. I was a bit determined that he really likes me. Its been months now we still talk on msn, but the thing is when we go to school he never comes up to me and talk and I won't go up to him because I'm too shy , and I guess him too must be shy actually he's a very shy guy, we mostly talk on msn or fb, not face to face. And I'm waiting for him to ask me out but he was saying he's not ready for a relationship. Oh and he used to have 2 girlfriends before they were both *****y and he lost his first kiss to his second girlfriend, everyone thinks that girl was forcing him to do stuff so he pretty much had bad experiences on relationships. May be that is one of the factor of what he means by not being ready for a relationship. But I really want to go out with him and I'd be so weird for me to ask him out and I think he'd probably say no anyway ;( everyone says he really likes me but I don't know I feel like it's not there yet. What should I do ?

Don't take offense to this, I'm not trying to be mean, but I don't think lying to you will help you either so I'll just say it. It sounds like you're both too immature for a relationship. How old are you, about 13 or 14? And I'm guessing he's the same. That's too young for anyone to be in a real relationship period. But even if I'm guessing wrong and you're older, if you two still have to communicate through friends to figure out if you like each other and then are embarrassed once you do, what makes you think you could be in a relationship? Some of the most important parts of a relationship are communication and honesty. You guys can't communicate. And, I'm not so sure that he likes you as much as you think. Helping you off the ice was a nice thing to do. ANY friend should have been willing to do that, girl, boy, crush or no crush, anyone. And, adding people to Facebook, msn, etc has come to mean little. Some people add people they've never even met.

Maybe he isn't ready for one; he might've just gotten out of one. Give him some space!

OK, he obviously likes me , he told one of my friend. And yea him and me are both 14. I don't know its not good to have a relationship at this age. But I feel like I need someone to be there for me.. I guess I'll just have to wait

At this point in your life you do not need a boy to be there for you. You should have your parents or other family members there for you and be learning to stand on your own two feet. You statement that you feel like you need someone to be there for me when you're talking about wanting to be in a relationship with his boy just made me that much more sure that you should most definitely not be in a relationship right now. You need to find other things to focus on. Like your grades. And other activities that will help you get into college later. And you it's never too early to start looking at colleges.

When I was in school, I delivered notes backand forth between the students, They mostly ignored me, so I don't know when someone is sending me a signal. Si never asked anyone out and had no girlfriends at all, I was afraid to talk to girls. They all thought that I didn't likr them. In the dictionary, the word :shy" had my picture in it. But I like lots of girls, I was just aafraid to talk to them.

I have the same problem I told this boy I lked him and he said he wasn't rready for a reationship and just wanted to be friends and I didn't mnd but these things take time and al my friends say he lkes m but I'm not qites sure because he didn't say that but I'm guna wait for abit I believe that if you wait and focus on the main things in life then you will get what you wanted.