OK, I'm 14 got big breasts and a sticking out stomach, everyone says you've got a gorgeous figure and beautiful body but I don't see it. And I the problem is I really want to I feel down about myself all the time and get over shadowed there's only 1 thing I like and that's my belly piercing, and even then I think that my bodies ruined the beautiful bar that my best friend gave me, pathetic I know but I want to feel beautiful and I need help to find out how

I am concerned that your cut yourself and are having sex at 14. Did you talk to someone about these issues? Do you plan to?

Is your cutting and having sex related to your poor self esteem? Sounds like it. You need to speak to someone - hopefully a professional who can help you with your issues.

Yeah maybe it is and I will talk to sum1

I think it's an excellent idea - if there are issues you can face them now, get things worked out before you get any older.

I wish you well.

As girls and women we learn very early on that the most important thing that we can be is pretty. I beg you not to fall for this lie and not to waste anytime of your life trying to please others with your appearance. Yes you do have a low-esteem and you will be miserable if you don't begin to choose to like who you are. You are on this planet for a purpose. You can give to others. By focusing on how you can make others feel good about themselves you will feel better about yourself. You body is you temple: love it and treat it well because if you didn't have it you wouldn't be here. Be of service to someone else that doesn't have as much as you do. And you will fall in love with yourself.

Blessings!