I AM in love with my cousin. I was invited by my aunt to live with her, which took me out of state, away from a dead marriage of years. I'm currently getting divorced. Last week, my cousins, my aunt's daughter, my age, and her youngest son came to visit. I had a crush on him when I was younger. Now, the crush has like grown up with us. When I first saw him, I couldn't believe it. We went for a ride to the store, and everything we wanted and looked at was the same. It's like we are able to read each other's mind. We both agreed that we had no idea what 'love' was at this point in our life. We both have grown children, and I am unable to bear any. I am trying to get back on my feet and be financially secure. He already is. He told me in the first hour we walked around my aunt's yard that he was out of relationships or thinking about being with a woman, then he said, 'and then you had to go and be here'. He wants me to meet him for like a kind of rendezvous, and I would have already taken him up on it, but I can't until I take care of something important that may take a couple of months. When we do start having those kinds of relations(because I am sure we will), I'm afraid he'll resent me later as both of us are super afraid of codependency and too much entanglement. He's so intelligent, smart, well spoken, good looking, perfect age, about 7 years older and we are both in our 50's. I am going to go for it. He gave me his number and told me to give him a call from my job, or anytime I wanted to talk to him, he said 'please call'. I found myself dreaming of him today, and I've hinted to my aunt my feelings. At first I think she thought I was joking. I hope we get everyone's blessing, because I'm already praying he's dreaming of me too.
I know this probably did not answer your question, but it sure felt wonderful talking about it, and I'm so happy I looked up the fact that in England, it's no big deal at all. If you don't love him, please tell him, I think, because he may really be serious, and this isn't like puppy love. It can hurt just like 'regular relationships'. Just my opinion. Good luck, and God Bless...

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