Well, me and my ex dated for 3 months over this 3 months toghther I just felt in love with him but he didn't love me back for long cause every time he wanted to say "he loved me" he couldn't cause he still had feelings for his old crush and he still does and it hurts me so much because I am in love with him and he knows that but his old crush told him she used to like him and now he is going try for her again.. but I know she will hurt him because she hurted him last time and all I want is him back and I want to trust him but I couldn't because when he told me he loved me I couldn't believe cause we broke up past 3 months like 3 times and he tried for her and when he told me that I just couldn't believe him and he almosted cheated on me... *** help... what should I do? I still so crazy about him
And I feel so stupid for having sex with him but I loved him and still do...

So you go to no contract at all with him, he has to decide what he wants, and you sound like he was using you to have someone to be with, since he had no one..

I tell him lets not talk for little whil but he keeps txting me or when he sees me in school he always talks to me... And It seems that he used me but I was his first girlfriend and everything its just so hard I want him back but like I don't trust him he would never ask me back to him

Damm well all I could say is that you should move on with out him and look for someone that will be true and that will love you for real

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I know... I am trying we broke up 3 weeks ago and every time I see him my heart felts down and he keeps wanted to pick me upfrom school and be my best friend butits sohard be around him

I want my ex boyfriend back so badly but he keepsp saying I'm not aggressive and I want to be aggressive so I can get him back.. but I never been aggressive all my life... so *** help? Tell me how to be aggressive girl??

Don't be crazy young lady, he still wants his ex, but she rejects him, and will settle on you, if you go after him to be aggressive. That's such a crock of crap. How could you even fall for that? No you are stuck on someone that's not stuck on you, just using you to pass the time with.

How old are you, as this sounds like grade school emotional drama. If some one really wants you, they would accept you, and not make you jump through humiliating hoops. SEX is not LOVE.

He does not love you, he is still hooked on his ex. You are wasting your time and making a fool of yourself with him.

He is merely using you and messing with your emotions for some reason.

Don't read any of his text, don't open any of the emails, don't answer any phone calls and move on,

Or be second best and have it rubbed in your face for more months

My boyfriend says Im not aggressive and I don't really know how to be so *** *** Im beging you *** help me give me some advise

In what way does he want you to be aggressive? Do you mean more assertive, as in standing up for yourself, asking for what you want?

Sometimes it may be helpful to try to push yourself a little, and make changes, for example in instances where you need to speak up, but be careful if the changes are not really who you are or what you are comfortable with.

Aggressive in what way?
I would ask why your boyfriend is wanting you to be something you are not. There is nothing wrong with not being aggressive, depending on what it is you are pursuing.
How old are the two of you?

Just read your other posts... please try to keep them all on one thread if they are on the same topic.

It sounds like you are trying to change yourself to be what he thinks you should be. Not a good idea. Wouldn't you rather have a boyfriend who likes you for who you are without having to change?

I know you are worried about him and this other girl, but don't let him play with your feelings. Either he wants to be with you or he doesn't... it really is that simple.

If he has feelings for this other girl still, then you should let him go. Do not try and get him back. You shouldn't have to try and persuade him to be with you.

Yes, it hurts, and yes, you feel awful right now, but it will get better and, in time, you will find a guy who likes just you.

You are wrecking your brain over someone who does not even want you. Stop it! It is pitiful and desperate and that is not attractive. Leave this boy alone.

Why does love has to be so confusing and sad? Why can't guy just love one girl and only her? Why can't they just see how much you love them or care about them? Why does guys have to be most stupid people alive? I given everything to him and ll I get is nothing out of it?? You made me cray, you broken my heart and all I so is return back to you still... You have no idea how much you meant to me. Why do I have to be so deeply in love with you? What happened to everything you said to me and promised? I know I might messed up things but we can fix them if you ever wanted... A lot guys say I should tell you my feelings to you in person but you already know everything and a lot of girls say I should let go of you and I have no idea what to do anymoee...
PS I wish I had an answer for everything

How old are you please? It matters.

I'm 15 and half goiing be 16 in two months, and he is 17 going be 18 in 4 months

At your age, love will come and go many times before you find that special one that you want to settle down with one day.

Most relationships that begin in high school, don't last forever. And I know that one day you will look back at this guy, and what he is doing to you, and think it was just a huge waste of time. You'll find love one day. Until then, enjoy your life, and get the best education available.

Time will heal all wounds.

Good luck.

As a guy who was betrayed by his girlfriend simply because I am a way for a year and she gave up on us and everything we had. I can ask girls all the same questions! Why are you so naïve that when a guy truly does love you with all he has do you feel you need a guy who is heartless to you, why do we get told we need to be more mature and then she goes and becomes the most immature person in the world by drinking every night, sleeping around, smoking pot, all real mature things I'm sure. When all along I've been career focused goal oriented and cared for her more than my own life!

I'm not trying to argue with you, I want you to see that both sides have these same questions, right now you're the one with them because you got your heartbroken, but I guarantee that because you are young, and based on your post I assume you are, you will at some point be the one breaking someone else's heart and they will be asking the same questions.

Your young focus on you, love yourself first find a you that makes you confident happy and independent. Hope that helps a little.

Most every guy in my school is jerks and he is kind and sweet always cares for evryone

He may be all that to everyone, but he was a lousy boyfriend for you. Sorry you picked one who was all talk and no do, and there was no way you could make him into something he is not.

It happens, its called a mistake and I hope you grow from it.