Im dying I did something wrong but I was by mistake I didn't mean it and the person I love said that he can't forgive me anymore and he can't trust me tell what to do to make him trust me again and forgive me I reallllllllly love him and I can't live without him I love him because he's my liiiiiiiiiiiife please I'm dying I need help :'(

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Well so we can help you tell us what you did that hurts him...

Hmmm I didn't really mean what I did I saw someone from the church and he wanted to talk to me but I didn't had time so he said I want to tell you information about something and I said not now and he asked me for my number and I gave it to him

But he's only someone from the church but my boyfriend got mad on me and he said that he can't forgive me and he can't trust me anymore:(( :'(

What you boyfriend is a really jelouse type well al I could tell you is that you showed try to explain it to him face to face ad if he doenn't lisen is just that he was looking for a reason to break up... if I was you I would just moe on...

Noooo I was on my way because me and my boyfriend were going to movies and I told him everything but he got really angry at me :( I don't know what to do to make him forgive me and trust me back :(((

And we didn't brake up we still together but he can't forgive me because of hat I did and he can't trust me :(

Well damm I been in this situation but I think my ex-bfs were dumm because they always forgive me... well tell your boyfriend this ''if you love me forgive me lets start all over and fix things because I'm not perfect I make mistakes and one of them was hurting the person I love and that's you... ''

But I told him and he said I did I forgave you alooooooot but this time I can't

I'm dying I swear by god I haven't been eating for yesterday and I'm sick too :(

Well just leave him and move on he don't deserve you because if you love somebody you will forgive him/her no matter what...

So you think its okay to suffer from his over reacting to an innocent exchange? I don't. I think you have apologized and explained enough, and if he can't forgive and say he is sorry for over reacting then you need to think long and hard about being with a fellow who makes you suffer for small things like this.

If you accept bad behavior, you get more of it.

Sort of like trying to understand why people keep using chat/text, and bad grammar and spelling, know it will be deleted as your other posts where.

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I know and it was my mistake and he didn't let me to explain more to him but I did I apologize and he said leave alone for a few days and I will see what I need to do what do you think? Is there any chance that he will forgive me and trust me back??

Sure he will, after he makes you suffer for an innocent mistake. You just sit, and wait for him to decide whether you are worth it, or not.

:'( I hope so because I'm dying without him :((

OMGosh, I was being sarcastic my dear, but it seems you put him above your own dignity, and self respect, and that makes this a very unhealthy relationship.

This time it was an innocent mistake by you, but what will it be next time? And there will be a next time.

No I did it but by mistake I didn't mean it and I promissed him that it won't happene next time becausehe is my life and he loves me true love but hhe said why did you do that :((

That's my point, he will turn everything, and anything against you, and when he gets mad or upset, it will ALWAYS be YOUR fault, never his, because in this case he OVER REACTED.

I know so what can I do in this case because I can't leave without him he's my life, my family he's everything in this world for me I done it before I tried to lose myself and I don't want it to happene again but if he left me I will please help me :((

Do you realize you sound like a desperate junkie who needs their dope??

I don't know and he being like that because my best friend loves him but he dosen't care about her but everyone knows that we are not together anymore but that's not true and promissed him that if he said everything is finished like it's the end of the line I won't stay alive because I love him , I love him because he's my life not I love my life because my life is him I hope you understand me :(:(

i don't know and he being like that because my best frend loves him but he dosen't care about her but everyone knows that we are not together anymore but thats not true and promissed him that if he said everything is finished like its the end of the line i wont stay alive because i love him , i love him because hes my life not i love my life because my life is him i hope you understand me :(:(

Sweetie, how old are you?

You seem very young. Trust me, when you are my age, you will realize that there are plenty of men out there.

This boy is not the one and only. You are consuming him way too much and losing yourself in the process.

But I can't move on I love him he's my life :( :( and I haven't even been eating from a few days :( and I'm sick

What mistake did you make? Im confused?

You gave some guy your number, is that the mistake?
Your bf's a meat head.

Why do you let someone treat you like this?

So your supposed to walk on eggshells so he doesn't carry on. Very controlling. Id be careful if I were you.

PS: He isn't your liiiiiiife. You are your own liiiiiife. Start living it without guys like him.

But I tried to but I couldn't and I'm sick of this life and I haven't been eating and drinking since I was with him you can't believe it but he is my life my life worth nothing without him:(:(:(

Well as Tal would say: Time to get off the pity pot!

We have all gone through this. All of us. Or we wouldn't be here.

Ive ended a 13 year relationship recently and it was the most painful thing I've ever had to do. But it needed to be done.

Yes you will be miserable, but, day by day, one minute at a time you'll begin to get happier and forget the useless jerk who made you miserable in the first place.

Why don't you make a plan to do one thing every day. Go for a walk, go to the movies, have lunch, go shopping, exercise!!

Don't sit around girl. That's the worst thing you could do!!

It takes time. Give yourself the time to realise that you deserve better than him. Because at the moment I don't think you believe that.

I don't know if I should be happy or not because I love him and the time I was saying to him that you are free I was saying but with my tears I can't think that I could live without him and I think that I can't move on without him please tell me what can I do that I could get over it? I sweeeeeeeeeer by god I sweeeeeer by mum that I love him more than everything in my life :( :(:(:(:(

:( now I ended everything but I can't stooop crying and thinking and hitting my sefl :( because I love him :(

Break-ups are always hard and take time to get over. You've got to spend a lot of time with friends and family to get through the rough times.

You said that you didn't know whether to be happy or not, so I assume there were things you disliked about your relationship. Would you provide a few more details about your relationship? Was he a cheat? Was he controlling? Why did you break up?

I breake up with him because I did something by mistake and he said he won't forgive me and he won't trust me anymore but what I did was I gave my number to someone that was from the church and he didn't talk to me because of that:(

How old are You?

I'm 17

The only thing worse than a break up is a funeral, but we do grieve our losses, and move on with our lives, and find happiness. I am not sorry for your loss, he was an immature idiot who kept you under his thumb with no love for you, or caring. He was selfish, and controlling, and way to jealous. Young and immature, in short, but you were way to willing to put yourself second, and go along with his bad behavior, for this to be a healthy love. So I am sorry for what you are going through, but not sorry to see you break up.

Maybe you cannot see this now, but will in the future, but you will have better options for a real love now that you have cut him out of your life. You loved him a lot more than he loved you, and you deserve better, now you can get it, as soon as you learn to love yourself enough to protect yourself from immature guys like him.

Is this your first love, or first break up? They always seem to hurt the most.

Well broken_star I have been in this problem twice and I just had to move on I found this good guy that shows me that he loves me even though this boy is getting in our relationship telling me to leave my boyfriend and be with him but its not going to happen because I'm happy with my boyfriend... well how old are you because you sound young like me I'm 16 and I act like a older person because I been in so many situations that I know how life is with a man specially the ones like your boyfriend... just move on you'll see it will be worth it...

:( will because I loved him and I do love him and I will love him till the last day of my life I was really and I was OK with what he was doing to me because I didn't want to losssssse himmmmmmm :( he was only person that I could feel OK when

I talk to him because I have a hard life since I was 4 years old and everyone knows that its true I have family but I always feel soooo lonely because I had no one to look after me my parents were busy with themselves :(

That's why I gave all my love and life to hiiiiiim :((

I'm 17 and its to hard when you give someone your life and you love like I did its tooooooo hard for me to move on :(

Of course its hard. Break ups are hard to go through for any human. It hurts like hell, but in time, you heal. It does get better. When you have cried enough, you move on. Then you look back and learn, and you grow.

You don't have to take crap to be loved, just love yourself, and do the right things for yourself. You are to young to be addicted, and dependent on a guy so moody.

:(

OK what I need help with is that I breake up with my boyfriend its was because a mistake I did and it wasn't a big mistake.The mistake I did I wasn't really a big mistake that I should be punished in a bad way what I did was that someone from the church came up to me and he asked for my number because he wanted to talk to me and I did gave it to him. I told my boyfriend about that because I never keep something away from him. And he went like I can't trust you and I can't forgive you anymore. And today he came up to me he said I will give you last chance that you should change yourself and never do this staff again. What he need is he giving me last chance to change myself for him I have to prove it. What I need help with is should I say I will change myself for you because of the mistake I did or I should say no because I haven't done a big mistake to punish me in a bad way?? Please I need to know what to do because I love him and I can't live with out him :(

You said your boyfriend said he couldn't trust you or forgive you anymore. What has happened in the past for him to think you're untrustworthy?

IF indeed all you did was give your phone number to a church member, then I think your boyfriend is being controlling and unreasonable. If that's the case, then I'd move on without him. You don't need someone that makes mountains out of molehills... your life would be miserable with him.

hmmm I didn't really mean what I did I saw someone from the church and he wanted to talk to me but i didn't had time so he said i wanna tell u information about something and i said not now and he asked me for my number and i gave it to him
But he's only someone from the church but my boyfriend got mad on me and he said that he can't forgive me and he can't trust me anymore( :'(

You have nothing to change, or feel bad about at all and do not deserve his bad behavior. Stand up for yourself to this bully and tell him to get over himself, and hit the road, because you will not allow him to treat you badly, over NOTHING but his own warped way of thinking. Tell him to grow up and at least act like a caring loving man, because you have no time for his BS!! Then walk away.

When you allow bad behavior, that's exactly what you will get!

Do Not go back to him. He is trying to control your behaviour. You did nothing wrong... he has made it out to be something horrible. I would wonder whether HE has something to hide if he got so bothered by a guy at your church wanting to tell you something.

If he can't trust you after something like that, tells you that he will give you one more chance, and that you have to "prove" you are trustworthy, why would you want to be with him? Why do you give him so much control over you and how you feel?

You said yourself that your upbringing was not the best, you didn't feel people were there for you and that you have poured all of that need into your boyfriend. That's not love... that's desperation. I bet you give, give, give... what do you get in return?

You felt family wasn't there for you and now you are paniced that he won't be there for you either. You are clinging onto him and he is feeding into that need by manipulating you and the relationship.

You are like a puppet and he is controlling the strings!

Take back your life girl! You need to be strong and confident in yourself, by yourself, before you can be in a relationship that will be healthy for you. He has done you a favour. You are now free to get strong.

Learn from this relationship... learn how you want to be treated by someone, how you deserve respect, trust, and true caring. It's time you start receiving some!

Soooo he is... hs already controlling me by making love him more and more than anything and everything and even more than my life :(

:( but he's my only person who I feel safe and I feel good and I feel that I have feeling and I have life when I'm next to him :( I need something that makes me t leave him but I have to make me to hate me first because I don't want to hurt him

But I will be always in his loooooooove :((

But do you think its easy?? It's the hardest thing I ever had :(

How is he making you feel good when he tells you that he can't forgive you and doesn't trust you? How does that make you feel safe and good about yourself?

You have given him complete control over how you feel about yourself and your situation.

You need to feel good on your own before you can be in a healthy relationship. This sounds very one sided with him being in the lead. Maybe I have misinterpreted things, but I get the impression that if he said jump you would ask him how high!

You will get over him... no one says it will be easy, but as you get out with friends and family, keep yourself busy and stop dwelling on him so much, you will probably start to see how much control you have given him and how clingy and dependent you have become.

Hmmmm OK I breake up with my boyfriend and it because some people told him that I like guys what they mean by that is that I like them I like to talk to them I like to go out with them and I only like to be with them... but I'm not like that they told him that I'm a ***** but I'm not and I need to prove it to him I need to prove that I'm not like what they said about me but I don't know how to I need to prove it to him not because I love him but because I need to make him to be shamed because he believe in what they said and I didn't believe in me and now I need to prove it to him but I don't know how to please I need someone to tell me a way that I can prove it please!! :(

It's almost impossible to prove a negative. What are you going to do, drag every boy you've ever met in front of your boyfriend and get them to say you are not a slut?

Honestly, what you need is a better boyfriend, one who will believe you and not need you to prove yourself to him all the time. He is obviously insecure and paranoid. Even if you somehow "proved" to him that you are a nice girl, he will still have doubts and will keep looking for evidence that you are messing around with other boys.

Look for someone who accepts you as you are, and who trusts you without reservation.

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The best thing you can do is leave him alone. It doesn't matter what he thinks and even if you could get him to admit he was wrong, it wouldn't change what everyone else is apparently saying.

Trying to hurt him because you are hurting doesn't help anything. It only prolongs the pain that you are experiencing.

You need to let him, his opinions, the relationship, all methods of contact, etc. go and concentrate on healing yourself.

Get involved in things that help you feel good about yourself. Let yourself move forward. Give yourself productive and healthy ways to work through the pain. Planning revenge is not healthy.

If you are involved with someone that doesn't trust you or believe you, then you are wasting your time with him. Every little thing that happens will cause him to mistrust you. What do you want to do, walk around attached to a lie detector? He will always question you, so make a clean start with someone else, and try to always be honest with him.

BrOkEn_StAr... you really do need to move on from this guy. You have said before that he has told you that he doesn't trust you; that he won't ever forgive you. Why do you continue to beat yourself up over this?

I know you have feelings for him; you think he is the love of your life, but you have to step back and look at what your relationship has really been like.

Do you really want to continue feeling that you need to prove yourself to him over everything you do? Do you want to be with someone who takes other people's words over yours? Be with someone who doesn't trust you?

This is not love... it is immaturity and manipulation. You have put him up on some kind of pedistal thinking he is so wonderful and that you can't live without him, but you can!

Don't you deserve better than what you have been getting? If you are thinking this is a good relationship, you are headed for continued heartache, frustration, anxiety, disappointment, and tears.

Walk away with some dignity left. Do not contact him, do not associate with these people who told him these things about you. Do not respond to him in any way. He made his decision to leave, and it is the best thing he could have done for you because now you are free to meet someone who will treat you with respect, kindness, and consideration. Who will show you what a real boyfriend should be like. Don't settle for anything less!

I know but I want to make everyone shamed because of what they said I need to prove it to him before ii move on

Will I am honest but I need to prove it to him that I'm not like what he said :(

Broken_Star, the only way you can prove anything is by living your life the way you know you should.

He didn't listen before you broke up so there is no reason to believe he will listen now, There is every reason to believe he will continue to think what he wants and will see anything and everything you do as proof he is correct.

You can't make people believe anything they don't want to believe. Some people hold on to what they know are falsehoods or incorrect facts just because they don't want to admit they were ever wrong or because they want to cause trouble.

Get involved in activities that help you feel better about yourself. Extra-curricular activities likes clubs, sports, volunteering, etc. can help occupy your mind and body giving you more confidence and inner-strength. Being a stronger person can go a long ways toward changing what people say about you.

Hmmmmmmm I am doing a business course administration :(

Well I think they use English in Australia, so complete sentences, periods, a few capitol letters, may help make more sense.

But you can't prove something to anyone that wants to believe it. You merely live your life and show you are not, but not being like what they say. But often the harder we try to prove something to someone, the more it will make us seem guilty,

And no you do not "HAVE" to prove anything to anybody. You want to prove it to him either to hurt him for leaving you, or some other reason.

Live your life with dignity, find someone who believes you without needing constant reassurance and proof, and stop worrying about what he thinks. I know it's tempting to find some way to rub his nose in his mistake, but the truth is that people believe what they want to believe, and if he thinks that girls tell lies (and I'm willing to bet that he does think that, it's not just you he doubts) then you are never going to change that.

Be the One Who Got Away, the one that makes him question himself.

>>>>>>I know but I want to make everyone shamed because of what they said I need to prove it to him before ii move on


They are not worth your time or energy. They aren't your friends, he is no longer your boyfriend.

Right now, since it is fresh, it is difficult not to focus on it, but before long it won't matter to you what they think because you will have moved on.

Keep beating your head into a wall, and let me know when it hurts.