View Full Version : Should I let my girlfriends past sexual stuff play on my mind..?
aldowyatt88
Oct 6, 2010, 09:46 AM
I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months now and I am on a year abroad for university, I talk a lot to her and as we cannot be together physically, we talk and sometimes have a bit of dirty talk. I am a curious guy and I asked her about her past with ex's and the stuff they got up to, I asked her if she had ever used her 'BOB - Battery operated boyfriend' with an ex before and the answer was yes, this has been playing on my mind for a couple of days now as I now know that she has used it with someone and when I asked her if she would let me use it on her (this was asked before I found out that piece of info), she was unsure if she wanted to. Does this mean anything or am I letting my wonder a bit unecissary..?
Thanks!
Don't let her past affect you. What happened happened. You can't change it.
Remember in the future not to ask about her sexual past as it has nothing to do with your relationship now.
Alty
Oct 6, 2010, 09:52 AM
Just because she did something in the past doesn't mean she has to do it in the future, and it has nothing to do with your relationship. Maybe she didn't enjoy the experience and has no desire to repeat it. Maybe she hasn't known you long enough to be completely comfortable with adding toys into the relationship.
If this is really bothering you, talk to her, but realize that she didn't need to tell you about her past at all, that's her business, and you obsessing about it isn't fair.
SUPA_FINE
Oct 6, 2010, 10:41 AM
Don't worry about her past, she's with you now.And stop asking questions if you can't handle the answer, that's silly.. lol.Just enjoy your relationship with her
vanheart
Oct 7, 2010, 08:15 PM
Honest communication & trust is the foundation in healthy relationships.
Make a plan.
talaniman
Oct 8, 2010, 04:41 PM
Don't let your mind play tricks on you from a distance.
kaka67
Oct 9, 2010, 02:52 AM
You asked the questions? What did you expect the answers to be?
If you can't handle the truth don't ask. And as already said don't let your imagination run away with itself.