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alluna
Oct 5, 2010, 07:15 AM
I have a very busy boyfriend for he works like 12/7.. For no off or holidays ever. So the chance of meeting him is so thin that can meet after his work like 11 pm or within the time he is not so busy between 2-6 pm, take good only for an hour.. Boy! But the worst had came in which he became busier, for Christmas is fast approaching so they need to prepare for their Xmas party in order to win for the competition during their party.. I am trying to understand him and extending my patience to work out this new relationship of ours.. I don't know that I can cling for this for the fact that his lifestyle will be like this forever, but I want to tell to myself that I should take it and be used to his lifestyle ):. I guess it is not that bad at all to give it a try right? Or do I have to let go of him for I think I deserve someone who will give me attention and time. :)
talaniman
Oct 5, 2010, 05:46 PM
If it's a lot of attention you need, he isn't the one. If its him you want, be patient and make adjustments. I doubt you get both at this time. You can try but I doubt he quits his job.
KoolAide187
Oct 16, 2010, 01:44 AM
First off... How old are you? Secondly People have to work. You knew he worked before you got into a relationship with him. If he could spend time with you I am sure he would. The fact that you want to let him go because you believe you deserve more attention tells me that you're quite young and have not had your fill of attention yet. Therefore you might as well save him the trouble of dealing with you breaking up with him later down the road because nothing has changed and you're still not getting the attention you "deserve". I don't want to sound mean or bad about this but that kind of mentality is going to cause you lots of problems through your life. There is a lot more to life than just attention. If you need attention why don't you become a bar tender(if you're old enough) or a go-go dancer. At least this way you're making money as well and not having to worry about getting only his attention. You're attention quota will be filled and so will your wallet.
I say if you don't want to work on things and give him his space to work then just let him go to save him grief of being with you longer and letting his feelings get stronger for you. He is always going to work. If him working so much is a problem maybe you could go work too or even better try to get a job working with him even though I wouldn't recommend it. But at least that way your mind isn't on him constantly and if you work with him then you can see him more often. That's just my thoughts. Sorry if they are rough but like I said attention isn't everything.
dhuber
Oct 19, 2010, 06:12 AM
If you are already unhappy that may be your answer. If he is a great guy you can try this. That doesn't mean it's forever However if you are unhappy with the amount of time that you will spend together as a couple than cut your losses. This is about what you want and how great you think he is. Is he worth waiting for?
Devorameira
Oct 19, 2010, 07:35 AM
Seems to me like you aren't happy with the situation like it is. Since you know that it isn't going to change, then I think it's time for you to move on and find someone who does have time for you.