I made out with this girl who is about to leave the country for a few months and I have no idea what it meant. We flirted back and forth for a few months, but for reasons not under our control neither of us could make a move. Now, a week before she is going to be gone for months, we both decide to make the move and ignore all the reasons not to.

She is still leaving, and it may be for good and it may not be, but ever since we made out she has talked to me less than before, but always says she is sorry about it and tells me that she is stressed and basically shuts down when that happens. I know that there is a lot going on in her life right now, and that what happened between us was really last minute.

I know that she is happy about what happened, she told me that, I think that she is just protecting both of us from getting hurt, by shutting down emotionally. I am just not sure if there is anything that I should be doing.

We talked and she told me that she likes me enough to tell me not to wait for her to come back, and that I should live my life. This is really difficult for me, I just have no idea what she is thinking right now.

I just have no idea what she is thinking right now.

You already asked her what she thought and she told you this:


We talked and she told me that she likes me enough to tell me not to wait for her to come back, and that I should live my life.

You have your answer. Whether it's the truth or not, she already told you to move on. It may be difficult to accept the truth, but if she wanted something more with you, she would not have pushed you away.

If she wanted to try to work things out, she would be doing that right now.

You can't force her into anything. Respect her wishes and let her go.

Yes, she told me that, but I really think that she is just protecting both of us from getting hurt because she is leaving and not sure when she will be back.

She cried the last time we were supposed to hang out because I got too drunk and left early... I don't want to make a huge mistake.

Then be honest with her and let her know how you feel. But after you let her know, the ball will be on her side of the court on what to do next. If she still refuses to be with you, then you have to respect her wishes. Forcing yourself onto her isn't good for anyone.

I told her how I feel... she feels the same way, but she is leaving. She likes me enough to not want me to wait for her, but all I want to do is wait for her. I have told her that and she feels the same way. We both have joked about when we see each other again that we will be with someone else... we both say that it will be fine and we will both be OK. This is awful.

Yes, she told me that, but I really think that she is just protecting both of us from getting hurt because she is leaving and not sure when she will be back.

She cried the last time we were supposed to hang out because I got too drunk and left early...I don't want to make a huge mistake.
What kind of mistake will you be making? She is leaving.
I think you are more into what happened that she is. It was what it was and she recognizes that. If it will make you feel better tell her how you feel. She still will be leaving but you would have had your say.