I have been dating someone and our relationship is over. The trouble is that I work with him. I get to see him every day, so it's not lilke I can try to forget aobut him.

I get to see him every day, so it's not lilke I can try to forget aobut him.Hello s:

You GET to see him?? Sounds like HE'S the one who broke it off. So, you either have to buck up, or find a new job.

excon

I understand what you are saying, and I should buck it up. I know the way that I should feel, i.e. get over it, you are better than him, but it's just the fact that when you end a relationship, the fact that not seeing that person anymore helps with the healing process. I cannot get another job right now. I just want some advice on how to deal with this awful situation. It just hurts a lot. I want to walk in there with my head held high, but I cannot.

Concentrate on your work,be polite,don't share your personal life with people you work with,be professional at all times.

You can walk in there with your head held high if you WANT to. Life is a matter of choices.

You can either choose to let this guy bring you down. Or you can choose to be strong and not show anyone how this gets to you. If you do the latter, you will come out stronger in the long run.

What's stopping you from holding your head up high? He is the loser in this not you.

Polite and business at work, as it may take longer to heal, but you will heal, especially if you have a healthy, happy life beyond work.

You haven't said much that will help with advice. You'd have to have your desks glued together to not be able to concentrate on work and ignore him. Work harder, do some extra work, learn new skills that apply to your job. It will kill 2 birds with 1 stone: you might get promoted out of his department (but again, we have no idea if this is a 5 person office or a corporation of 1000).

Point being, no matter how many people work in this office, YOU need to let these feelings go as soon as you walk inside of the work place.

Be professional, and never tell anyone about him. Keep your feelings to yourself. At least at work.

This too shall pass.

These things happen quite a bit. That is break ups with someone you work with. It's all in how YOU decide to handle it. You either can make it a good environment or a bad one.

The choice is your.

I should add that you should look totally amazing at the office, wear a broad smile a little laugh here and there with a co worker,walk with purpose,even if its just to the loo!

Wear a coat of confidence!

You can do it!

He's just a guy,there's loads out there.

Plan an evening with your girlfriends,keep busy,visit your family,fill up your week and weekends.

Not only will this help with getting over him,but your boss will notice the confidence and the new you shining day by day!

As long as you have to work with thius guy, then you might as well rub it right in his face. Arrange to have some guy call you and act like he is interested in you. Then have him pick you up at work. Act really giddy and silly around this new guy, like you are enamored with him. Make sure you look great, really sexy, and act like this old boyfriend means nothing to you. Go in a private area with the new guy and pretend you are being really passionate. Now if none of this fails to get a rise out of the guy you like ,then quit your job and go to work for a company that only hires females, like hooters.. It's stupid to get involved with someone you work with just for this reason. Well you live and learn, you aren't the first and you definitely won't be the last.

As long as you have to work with thius guy, then you might as well rub it right in his face. Arrange to have some guy call you and act like he is interested in you. Then have him pick you up at work. Act really giddy and silly arou7nd this new guy, like you are enamored with him. Make sure you look great, really sexy, and act like this old boyfriend means nothing to you. Go in a privqte area with the new guy and pretend you are being really passionate. Now if none of this fails to get a rise out of the guy you like ,then quit your job and join a monastery.

As funny as I thought your comment was, don't you think by pretending to like another guy, that might stir something up? I mean, none of us know how or what caused this break up. He may or maynot be a nice guy, who just wasn't feeling it for her any longer. Is it really this guys fault?

... just saying.

Enigma, I edited my post and told her what I think of office romances. Not sure if this old skin shows my changed post or not. The monestery crack was mean and uncalled for . I apologize for that remark.

The thing is it must be very uncomfortable to work with someone who dumped you. Certainly not the guys fault, but he is not the one having the problem. She is, so she has to do someting{even if it's not what it seems} to allow herself to hold her head up high so she doesn't act like a wounded bird. I don't suggest she ignore the guy, she still has to work with him, so if she can somehow send the message to him and everyone else, the message being that she could care less, then work will be much more tolerable to her. Everyone else's feelings including her exes, are not her problem at this time.

The thing is it must be very uncomfortable to work with someone who dumped you. Certainly not the guys fault, but he is not the one having the problem. She is, so she has to do someting{even if it's not what it seems} to allow herself to hold her head up high so she doesn't act like a wounded bird. I don't suggest she ignore the guy, she still has to work with him, so if she can somehow send the message to him and everyone else, the message being that she could care less, then work will be much more tolerable to her. Everyone elses feelings including her exes, are not her problem at this time.

I understand where you are coming from, John. I do.

As much as she is uncomfortable with this, I'm sure he is as well. She had never indicated the reason for the break up, as she shouldn't if she doesn't want to. So none of us know how it ended. I just know that when two people work together and date at the same time, they run that risk of a breakup and still continue having to work together.

She realizes now what she should do, and I think everyone has given her good advice. Now she needs to implement that, as I think she will. She just has to realize that it will be hard at first, but he may be going through the same thing too.

Sorry to highjack.

I agree enigma {i hate that we have to spread the rep}, so I am curious smiley, why did you break up?