View Full Version : A new guy in my life and I don't have a clue how to act?
doune
Oct 2, 2010, 04:09 PM
I'm a 24yr old female.. I have been with my ex for 4 years but finally I left him unfortunately he never think of getting married so I chose to let go anyway I'm with a new guy his sweet and kind and I guess he likes me but from wt I had in my previous relationship I can't seem to let go of some stuff like worrying that his just playing or cheating or am I just a game.. obviously I know he has aloot of female friends so my jealousy is uncontrolled sometimes but I don't show it... my question is : WHat can I do to make him like me more?
joypulv
Oct 2, 2010, 06:29 PM
I don't see the question as how do you get him to like you more. You don't 'do' things to get someone to like you; you be who you are and if they like you and you like them, you work on the relationship together as needed over time. But I don't think you are even there yet. You need to ask YOURSELF how you can stop being insecure and jealous. The best way is to have lots of friends yourself, both men and women, and interests other than him. And I suppose that can be called a 'way to get him to like you more' - he will see you as non threatening, non needy, non demanding and non clinging. It's better if he likes you for positive reasons and not just a bunch of nons though.
Devorameira
Oct 3, 2010, 06:04 AM
Sounds like you haven't healed from your previous relationship. You may have jumped into a new relationship way too fast. Slow it down.
If you aren't going to allow yourself time to heal without a man in your life, then you've really got to remind yourself that your new man is not the ex.
If you display jealousy and mistrust without just cause, then all you're going to manage to do is to run him off.
talaniman
Oct 3, 2010, 09:33 AM
ERROR: You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Devorameira again.
If you have not healed from you last failed relationship, you will ruin the one you are trying to have now. You better slow down, and pay very close attention to your words, and actions. There is nothing wrong in recognizing when you are just not ready yet to be with someone.
doune
Oct 3, 2010, 10:59 AM
Thanks I guess I should slow down lool
doune
Oct 3, 2010, 11:00 AM
Thanxxx yes I will try to give myself a ME time lool