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kitten2
Oct 2, 2010, 05:47 AM
I went out on date with man and he took me to stripper club, he stayed with me for hour we were there. But I felt totally akward, is it strange to go with man to stripper club or is it just me.

talaniman
Oct 2, 2010, 07:00 AM
I say its really strange, but that's just my opinion. Its not unheard of though. Ow well do you know the guy? Is it the fellow in your other post?

Fr_Chuck
Oct 2, 2010, 12:25 PM
If he does not know you well, or if it was not agreed ahead of time. Not much of a date if this was a first date

Cat1864
Oct 2, 2010, 12:56 PM
Kitten, what seems awkward to me is that there seems to be little or no communication about what the plans for the evening were. Did he ask if you were okay with it or was it his evening out with you tagging along?

How long have you been 'dating' this individual? Was the rest of the date more to your liking?

Shadowburn
Oct 2, 2010, 01:29 PM
Yeah, I think Cat 1864 properly called this guy an "individual". Strip clubs, boxing matches and other activities that guys normally do with other guys, properly hint you that this guy do not see you as a "date" and therefore, he is not worth your time. You are a lady, and should be rightfully expecting to be treated as such.

If I were you, I wouldn't be seeing him again.

beachloverjohn
Oct 2, 2010, 02:29 PM
There is nothing wrong with your boyfriend taking you to a strip club, as long as you work there. And if you don't, what did he do, tie you up and drag you there? Did you ever hear of free will? To me taking you to a club full of dancing, gyrating ,naked women is fine, but then again I usually date pigs..

But cheer up, with any luck he'll give you a "pole " for your birthday..

Alty
Oct 2, 2010, 03:01 PM
I would find it odd if I was dating a guy and he took me to the strippers. Talk about the romance being gone.

Was this your first date, 10th date, been dating for months?

My husband and I have gone to strip clubs, but to go when dating would have made me feel a bit odd. Dating is what you do to get to know someone, to start a romance, to feel out the attraction. To go to a strip club when it's clear that one of the daters isn't comfortable with it, is a bit odd.

excon
Oct 2, 2010, 03:07 PM
Hello kitten:

Yeah, people are strange. I think I know the guy, though. He has porn running on his TV while he conducts business meetings.

excon

kitten2
Oct 3, 2010, 03:25 AM
It was first date and asked me want to get something to eat afterwards but I wasn't hungry so took me home. He normally goes there with mates and he said never took girl there before,

kitten2
Oct 3, 2010, 03:27 AM
1st date, your right is was really strange some men behind bar who do work there was looking at me odd as only girl there who doesn't work there.

kitten2
Oct 3, 2010, 03:30 AM
He didn't ask we just went, but after we left he said it was like new experince for you, but I thought it dirty old men paying half naked women to private dance.

JudyKayTee
Oct 3, 2010, 09:25 AM
Is this guy the same guy you met in hotel rooms for sex only - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/vile-human-being-personal-attack-me-does-treat-women-like-general-511647.html?

I'm working on why, if this seemed strange, OP got out of the car and went into the strip club.

Do I like strip clubs? Yes. If I didn't would I walk into one with my date? No.

Cat1864
Oct 3, 2010, 10:01 AM
kitten2 : it was first date and asked me want to get something to eat afterwards but I wasn't hungry so took me home. He normally goes there with mates and he said never took girl there before,

So, are you still 'dating' the man who you were meeting in hotel rooms?

I think you need to learn to communicate with the men you are dating or thinking about dating. Somehow, I think the pereption they have of you is not the one you want them to have. I think you might want to suggest a lunch date for your next dating experience. Something that is less sex oriented if nothing else.

talaniman
Oct 3, 2010, 10:11 AM
You date some strange guys. Maybe a change of pace that's more about you having fun without dating will change your options a bit to something more rewarding, and healthy is what you need.

kitten2
Oct 4, 2010, 05:13 AM
No this I snew man

kitten2
Oct 4, 2010, 05:15 AM
No this is new man