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Lost30
Sep 29, 2010, 03:04 PM
I'm 30 now and was with my soon to be ex-wife 12 year witch 10 of those years we were married. We had two beautiful daughter that I love very much! My traveling work schedule, time away, poor attitude, and lack of wanting to travel between traveling for work drove her into have an affair over the past two years that I now know of with different guys in my own house. When I found out I filed for divorce and the first thing she did was keep my daughters from me now that I got visitation she called CPS saying that I assaulted her in front of our daughters. 12 years not one case of domestic abuse and now CPS say I have to have supervised visitation until they finish the investigation. It's been about a month now and nothing I don't even feel like a father anymore! I feel empty, angry, and confused so I'm moving about 5 hours away quiting everything and starting fresh. Is it wrong to leave my daughters behind? They don't call and they avoid my calls unless they need or want something. My ex says she didn't know this was going to happen and that she told CPS I didn't need supervised visitation but that's way to late! Do u think I'm just running from my problems or is a new start in life really what I need?

beachloverjohn
Sep 29, 2010, 03:16 PM
Knowing only your side of the story makes this difficult to answer. Based on what you say, a fresh start is a good thing. But you should still spend as much time with your children that is possible. They are not really against you, they are just confused. Give this some time, and do what is right.

Devorameira
Sep 29, 2010, 03:27 PM
You're probably not going to like my advice, but it's my opinion on things.

It's rude of the kids to avoid your calls, but hey just remember that they're just kids. You are the adult here and you don't really know what kind of crap they're being fed.

Don't run away from your problems. Stand up and fight for your rights and your children... that's what a real father would do. Only a coward would move away to avoid the situation.

talaniman
Sep 29, 2010, 07:29 PM
I think that until the legal stuff is settled, and you can have things ironed out in court, there is not much you can do. Too bad you, and the wife can't work together to be good parents, but for now get your own act together the best you know how, and work to rebuild after the emotional dust has settled some.

Don't see this as running away, just regrouping until the details get ironed out. Then you can make a better decision, but no reason not to be trying to call your kids, where ever you are.

I think I would still keep the supervised visits though, as that's better than nothing.

vanheart
Sep 29, 2010, 07:37 PM
Don't let her ruin things any more. Get legal advice asap.

Your daughters are more important than she is. Stand up for your rights. Don't let her try & play them against you for revenge after cheating.

Im sure there was way more in 10 years that you're not letting on (not just one thing), but now is now.

Like Tal said, at some stage you both need to realize & agree what's important. Your kids.

No reason for them to suffer because of this.