Hiya my daughter was put in my uncles care ( special guardianship order) I was 14 years old when this order was made.
When I was 14 I had no house, job, a stable partner or any thing. But the circumstance has changed now I am 18 yrs old, and I think I have done fairly well, I have a house, a stable relationship . I have been with my partner for 3 years now. My partner has got a job.I have had another child a little boy who is 13 months. He is at home with me, he is well looked after. When he was 4 weeks old social services closed the case as there was no concerns. Social services don't understand why my daughter was taken from me, just because I was 14. I have decorated and furnished my daughters room ready for her. I should be going to court in a couple of months to have my daughter back at home with me. But my uncle is refusing for her to come home and I have asked for more contact but he has refused that as well. I have taken loads of notes and photos of the house to my solicitor. I was wondering if you could give me any good tips for the months ahead so I can have a stronger possibility for my daughter to come bk home. She is 4 in January and my uncle has made her believe that he is her dad and that his sons are her brothers. I think she should know the truth as when she gets older it will muck her head up. They won't even let me tell her she has a younger brother, even though I gave them a written letter from my solicitor saying that they should tell her the truth because of basically mucking her head up.please can any one help me because I think she is better off with her mummy and little brother and step dad. I just want us all to be a happy family.

It depends on the terms of the originally guardianship. But if social services supports returning your daughter, it should go well. Talk to your case worker and solicitor. They can give you the best advice on how to prepare.

Thank you I am totally scared because I know my uncle is going to fight for my daughter to stay with him. The family are the type of people to lie about things. The difference is that they are older and loads of money. As for me I'm younger and have an all right amount of money coming in. it makes me mad if she doesn't come home because she is going to be brain washed, my uncle tells my daughter to call me mummy mary and I just wish they will tell her the truth. I'm just so scared, I don't want to go through any more pain any more that's all. I know my daughter will have every thing she needs and all the love in the world when she come back home. I have written notes, pictures, quotes from health visitor, family support worker, nursery asstaint. Also an assement that I have passed from socail services. I just thought I ouple of good tips would help me more. Thank you for the advice you have given

We can give you some general advice, but your case worker and solicitor are closer to the situation so they can give you better advice.

I also have to suggest that you look at this from your uncle's perspective. For 4 years they have raised your daughter, establishing emotional bonds and raising their slutty niece's mistake. Now that slut is trying take this child away from them. Now before you get pissed at me, I'm not calling you names. I think you are to be congratulated for turning your life around. I think you are a remarkable story. But we also have to look at the facts. You became sexually active at 14 and then had another child at 17. That's what your uncle sees. He doesn't see the girl who has become a woman, who has built a life for herself and risen above the mistakes she made.

So you need to keep his perspective in mind when dealing with this.

Oh yes I do totally agree with you and can I just say my daughter went into their care at 15 months old. I did try when I was 14, social services put me in a mother and baby foster placement and I did very well for 6months.but I had a terrible relationship with the foster carer. She used to call me names and smash my things up.I got sent home without my daughter because this lad threaten to kill her. He did a lot of bad things to me in the past that I don't want to go into detail in so I believed he would do so. Yes I got my daughter removed from there to a different foster carer. Soacial services said they were looking for antoher mother and baby placement for me. According to social services they couldn't find one so my daughter went to my uncle.
Of course I can see my uncles point of view and if my daughter does come home, my uncle can see her as much as he likes. I am a kind and caring person, with me I only see her 5 times a yr. thanks for the advice .

Do you have a job because I don't see that mentioned. Also when is the wedding?

No I don't I am a full time mum but my partner has a job, he is in a scarp yard. We are planning of getting married in 2011, we are still saving for the occasion.