Okay, I'm 23 yrs of age currently dating 20 yrl old girl, we know each other from high school but didn't really talk until after school. We been seeing each other for about half a year now, and been dating going on 2 months.. I'm madly in love with this girl; I have not been in relationhip(s) for a couple of years just because I know how they are and I have had a lot on my plate that I been trying to take care of, career wise, and this girl really tops it for me. I don't see myself w anybody else but her. I know we are both in love with each other, because we been through a lot thus far, and that's only brought us closer and I wouldn't change anything. I don't regret TRYING with this girl, and its brought me very far. I've leanred a lot about myself and of course about her. The more of which, I love.

Now, my dilemma:
She currently doing an internship for Toni & Guy and by June of next year, she has to leave the country and be in UK for 15 months at a location over tehre. I don't know what to do. I know myself too well and long distance relationships have never been an option to me (based on past experiences), and I stand my ground on all my beliefs. Not because I'm stubborn or anything like that, its just that I know myself too well that I wouldn't want to hurt the other person you kknow, especially a person such as my current girlfriend. I don't know what to do, I feel like ****. Just when everything was going great, news like this break me. In my eyes, my girlfriend is WORTH IT, but then again, I KNOW that ima need her love, ima need her here, ima need her to be 'there' for me you know... and I feel like even if I was to try, that the distance would be a huge problem for me. I really don't know what to do, should we stop and pick things up when she comes back, if our feelings are still there. Or wtheck! Should we stop dating NOW because we know that the inevitable of her leaving is bound to happen.I really don't know, like it hurts having her here and I know she hurting too. But she got the internship at Toni & Guy w prior agreement of her leaving the country and contracts are signed and everything... so yea, any words of advice would help :(

Also, I have one question and kind of want to hear somoenes input: okay, I have friends, of course, and I've always loved bringing her around when I hang out w the 'guys' or wtvr, just so that she gets to THAT side of me too, and we all have a good time. Now, she talks to my friends because of me right, and the only reason why they would interract is because we either all hanging out together and/or talking... is it bad that it bothers me for her to contact my friends out of our little 'hang outs'. Like say, my friend Joe was introduced to my girlfriend and now they txt/talk and want to hang out, like when I'm not around or like make plans together... is that bad that it upsets me? I haven't really told her anything but inside, it does bother me a bit. Like I don't see myself doing that to her friends you know. I'm not going to go out of my way and try to get to know her friends on a personal level. The only times I would really interact w her firneds is iether because we all hanging out or wtvr, but not on my own time. So id expect the same kind of respect back, I don't know. I'm weird lol
Anyway, if you still reading this, you can tell I can use some helpl lol
Hope this all made sense lol
Have a blessed day.

Once anxiety creeps in, love can seem totally different to the person being worried about, and they often start to shy away. June is so far away, and it would be so good if you could try to just live for the day and week and assess your relationship in the spring. She may very well be texting your friends, even hanging out without you, to let you know that she doesn't want to be hampered in her career plans (and of course it's normal to be upset, but what you do about it matters more). What if she stayed with you and resented the lost opportunity for the job for the rest of her life? It's interesting that you haven't said one peep about considering some sort of job or study in England next year, since you are the one who doesn't want to be apart! You have 8 months to look into it, keeping her in the loop in case it creeps her out.

Thanks joy,
Now as far as the texting friends/hanging out with them without me, I know is not related to her 'career plans' its just 'bc' I guess, that's what I don't understand, is it wrong of me to bring it to her attention. 'llike hey babe, I would prefer you cutting back on outside communication w my buds, unless we all chilling you know'.
And I have never told her to stay, I have told her that id support her no matter what, but I don't know what affect it would have in our relationshiip.
Ever since high school, I been working towards owning my own business, and its been 4 years in progress, and I've done so much and worked so hard for it, that if I was to just pick up and leave, id be the one leaving everything behind w uncertainty, of what ima do in England... that's my dilemma. But don't get me wrong, for her, id drop everything, but my 'logic' side kiks in and that's when I analyze the whole situation...

Through all the chat speak, and text talk, I think you are better served now letting her go to do her thing, rather than trying to hold on to something that's going down hill, and ends soon any way. Hey it was fun, but the end is in sight, so why make it any more complicated than what it is. As for your friends, time for a change for you any way.

Sorry guy, its just not worth all the drama, and intrigue, and the mind games you are about to go through, so remove yourself from the situation, and find a better one to be in. Sometimes the best way to avoid a disaster is to not be where it will happen.

She will be dating also. 15 months is a long time for someone to wait. .