View Full Version : I lied to my parents about my boyfriend and got caught
italian7
Sep 26, 2010, 09:39 AM
There is this guy and I met him through a friend of mine and we became best best friends and then he started getting feelings for me and so did I so while later he asked me out and I said yes but I am not aloud to date so I kept it a secret and we changed our relationship status on fb so I had to block my mom, dad, sister and aunt .my dad doesn't agree and understand the concept of me having a guy friend but my mom does and I've been lying to her saying that were just friends but 2 weeks later after he asked me out she found out! And tryied to look me up on Facebook and found that I blocked her so she got all mad and figured it all out and before as friends she would let me go to his house now that she found out that I lied! She might not let me see him ever again!!
WHAT DO I DO?!
redhed35
Sep 26, 2010, 09:48 AM
Suck it up!
You broke your parents trust,you went behind their back,you lied,you can't expect them to sing 'happy day'.
Take whatever punishment they give you,rebuilding the trust is going to be a long haul,and that's all you can do.
Until your 18 your parents are responsible for you.
As hard as it feels right now,they care about you,and care what happens to you.
They want the best for you.
Cat1864
Sep 26, 2010, 10:04 AM
First, apologize to your parents for lying.
Second, ask what you can do to regain their trust and perhaps get permission to see him in a group of friends.
You took a chance and got caught. Now, you are going to have to do what it takes to make things better. That means obeying your parents and not sneaking around. Be open and up front with them. Don't try to hide your activities or look suspicious.
It will take time, but if you don't do something else to get in trouble, they should begin to trust you again.
Did the boyfriend know you weren't supposed to date? If so, then he needs to apologize, too. Showing respect will be a major plus. If he didn't, then you need to be honest and explain that you messed up and now you have to fix your relationship with your parents and that probably means not seeing him or being extremely restricted in seeing him.
Don't make promises you can't keep. Don't enlist his or anyone else's aid in getting around any strictures that your parents put in place.
Accept the consequences with dignity and maturity. It will regain your parents trust faster than temper tantrums and blaming them for messing up your life will.
Good luck.