She hangs the child over my head lies to everyone calls dcf on me pulls me into court for stuff I didn't do I always get stuck with her attorney bills

If your proven innicent then you shouldn't be paying her lawyer bills. And she should be paying yours. Provided that your innocent. A few times of that should put a stop to this.

Also do a forensic accounting of your case. If she really is abusing you in the courts then be sure to point that out to the courts.

Move change your information and never ever call her id suggest somewhere where no one ever goes like South Dakota since all there is there is one long highway and 2 hotels