I have 3 sister. 2 older and 1 younger. The younger one isn't the one I'm talking about. One of my older sisters (Who is adopted) is 19 and has a baby who is about 2. My other older sister (my real sister) who is 19 also, is very christian, is married, and has a baby on the way. My mom is always trying to make sure I don't end up like my adopted sister, so she made me get on birth control though I'm not doing anything wrong with any guys. Then she tried to get me to be as perfect as my real sister... but I'm just not like them. I'm not going to go out and get myself pregnant.. but I'm not going to get As and Bs on my report card, find the perfect christian guy, and love Jesus like my real sister does. I don't understand why she can't just accept me for who I am. I can't be like my sister... believe me a couple years ago I tried. How do I get her to understand I'm not doing anything bad.. but that doesn't mean I'm going to be perfect?

I think you should sit down and tell her that you are not your sister and that you have done nothing wrong with your life. You were raised correctly enough to know to be safe and not stupid, I don't know if this helps but I tried...

You mother means well. She is being over protective, we know that, but it is out of love for you. Having said that, sometimes we have to let our children be themselves, and that is not always easy to do. We try to keep you from making mistakes that could effect your whole life, and to a teenager it often seems over done. The birth control issue is something you really have to talk over with your mother. It can be more than just trust. It's the realization that you are growing up. You sound like a pretty level headed young lady, so hopefully your mother will recognize that and not put so much pressure on you, and let you be yourself. But don't be too hard on her, she is just concerned for your welfare, and is trying to raise you the best way she knows how. Someday you will be a mother, and you will know what it's like to worry about your loved ones 24 hours a day.

I agree with John. Your Mother loves you and wants the best for you. Keep on being who you are and she'll see you are a good girl. It's a Mothers job to worry. Try to bring the grades up and she'll see you're doing okay. Good Luck

Tell her your feelings. Be straight out. You don't seem scared of her, give it a try.

Tell her your feelings. Be straight out. You don't seem scared of her, give it a try.