I recently started dating a guy I like and he began uni a few days ago, we said we will stay in touch and see each other sometimes when possible. Is this worth it, would he actually have time for me because I don't want to waste his or mine?

He is going to be very busy, with studies and other activities so if you are willing to be a part of his live, and not his whole life, then yes of course it is worth it. But only you can answer such a question because only you know what you can live with. But if I were you, I wouldn't put all my eggs in one basket. You haven't been dating long enough, you don't know each other well enough, and neither of you have experienced enough to make any kind of a commitment. So don't expect too much and you won't be too disapointed or hurt if things don't work out.

What a lovely reply, very helpful :) thanks

Your are just starting to date, and time will tell if he wants to make time for more dates. If I were you, I surely would have fun doing your own thing until that happens, or not. Dates are not commitments so enjoy all the dates you get whether with him, or not.

Talaniman Rule - Date them all, short, fat, skinny, or tall. 18- 80, blind, cripple or crazy.

I think the real question should be "Will you have time for him?".

I met this guy a month ago and we got on really well, we went on a few dates had some great times. He started uni other week and I went up there to visit, I know it was quite soon but I slept with him day. It's been almost a week and we have spoke once when we used to speak everyday. I am now begginning to wonder weather I have been used for sex and what to do? How bad would it to ask him or how could I tell? Also he's quite ill but I didn't think that would get in the way of just texting me.

Sounds like you've been used.

But the only way to find out is to talk to him about it.

You're just going to have to talk to him about it... otherwise there's no way to know.

If he's quite ill, maybe he's been expecting you to check up on him??

How can he have used you when YOU went to him, and participated in doing the wild thing together? What did you expect when you CONSENTED to have sex with a guy? No you were not used, but you should have talked instead.

To late to regret what you did, but don't try to put all the blame on him. If anything you used each other for sex. Own your part in this as a willing participant.

also he's quite ill but i didnt think that would get in the way of just texting me.

Does he work as well as go to school? That will take up a good bit of his time and if you add being 'quite ill' to the mix, he may not be up to texting or calling.

Who instigated the last contact? Have you tried contacting him to see if he is feeling better?

I am going suggest that you refrain from having sex until you are certain there is a relationship if you feel used after you went to him.

I have to agree with Tal {had to spread the rep, which will never make sense to me, but I don't make the rules}. Why is it that only girls can be used for sex. You must have enjoyed it too. Everybody is used for sex, unless one of you is a blow up doll.