Hello everyone, recently I have started dating this guy ( for about 1.5months now).

We did ask me to be his girlfriend about 2weeks ago. :)

He started university (a science program) last week. Now he is really busy and we barely see each other. ( I mean I've seen him twice in 2weeks for about 20minutes each time) I totally understand he has homework, studying, labs and classes so I don't pressure him to make time for me. Although we do text almost everyday saying I miss you or something, and the odd phone call here and there.

Well this past weekend he went out with the guys Friday, which I understand because guys need their guy time. But then he told me he did nothing but sit at home Saturday night then Sunday he hungout with his friends again!! He did come to see me this morning and we talked about things.

He told me he really likes me and doesn't want to break up but he's really bad with time management and does everything last minute. He also said he's never really has had a girlfriend because none of them put up with his behaviour. ( never making time for them)

I don't know if it's just because of school. Before he started university we did manage to see each other a lot more. Now he is always busy, even if he isn't busy he's really stressed out and doesn't want to chill.

He says he gets so stressed and depressed during the school year, He just ignores everything and doesn't care about anything.

Although he will say he really likes me and wants to stay with me and thinks I am amazing.

Has anyone else dealt with a guy like this before? Should I break up with him or say something else? Or let it be?

I've never dated a guy who has had horrible time management skills.

Any advice would be appreicated ! Thanks everyone :)

Hello newgirl,

Actions speak louder then words.

I strongly believe that he is not ready for a boyfriend girlfriend relationship.

I do believe that he likes you. I just think he has way too much on his plate, and shouldn't waste your time when there are other guys who do want to be with you.

I'm not saying that he is a bad guy, not at all, I just think that you two aren't right for each other at this point in time. I think that you two should remain good friends for now, then see what happens up the road.

It's too soon in the relationship to have these issues.

He should want to see you as much as he can at this stage of the game.

You have to do what's in your heart.

I wish you luck.

I will hope for the best and but prepare for the worse. And we wonder why we end up at sites like this, asking complete strangers for advice. Its because we have no aspirations for our own relationships. We want more, but will accept less until we think we have them hooked then of we will bring them around to our way of thinking. Unfortunately that is fantasy not reality, and that is we so many of us lose. We either accept them for them flause and all or realize that they don't mess with our hopes and dreams in a partner and we move on.---Good luck

He also said he's never really has had a girlfriend because none of them put up with his behavior. ( never making time for them)
His time management is an excuse, because he has priorities to what he wants to do with his time, and he may be spontaneous, but I bet he sees nothing wrong with the way he does things even though you see this as a problem. That he didn't call when he had nothing to do is what I see as something to deal with, and what you have to pay attention too.

While its only been a month and a half, much to soon to know him well at all, or he you for that matter, you are already expecting too much from this stranger, and your idea of a relationship and his, is a long way from being defined.

I think you got into this relationship before you had a chance to enjoy dating, and getting to know each other to see if a relationship that's exclusive, and committed is wise or a waste. So even with the titles, I hope you remember that you both have a lot to learn about yourselves, and each other, and can give each other some slack for not understanding what you both want, or need for/from each other, as there will be many conflict to resolve in this "instant" relationship going forward.

He has given you not only a blue print of his life, but a road map telling you exactly where this relationship is going. And I think it is going to a dead end. So knowing all of this, there is only one answer you can come up with for yourself. Do not tie yourself down to a commitment that is not fair to you. You can still see him of course, and that is up to you, but I would make it clear to him that you don't feel you can be "exclusive" to him at this time because you don't expect him to have that much time for you but you still have to live your life in the meantime. Another words, give this way more time before you become a "couple". And if that's not Ok with him, then for your own sake, move on. You don't have to settle for less.

So I take it, when you were dating for 1 1/2 months, you probably didn't see much of him then, and it is about the same or less than you did when you two decided to be boyfriend and girlfriend, just two weeks ago.

You may think he has time management problems, from what he's told you, but what he really has is poor relationship skills, because he doesn't make time for you.

You aren't worried about his time management skills pertaining to his school work; you probably don't spend much time helping him in that department, because you not only haven't dated him long enough to know what his skills are, you also don't see him enough to know him well enough, to know what is an excuse, and what is a problem.

So if you are going by the assumption that he does not manage his time well enough because he does not make time for you, you may not be correct. Maybe this is all he wants out of a relationship, maybe he is quite happy with the way he is balancing school, and you (hard to tell after such a short time).

I see the problem more as, what are your needs and expectations in an exclusive relationship, and how little will you accept to keep hanging on, waiting for more.

If he continues with his priorities, and you are not one of them, after talking to him, and getting to know him better, then I agree with the advice that he is not ready for a relationship.

If he were, him managing time for you would not be a problem in the first place.