My Friend whom is single (she is 41 years old) is here for a visit, her first full night here, I went upstairs to get my daughter ready for bed, then myself. The next morning she starts telling me things she discussed with my husband at one in the morning. I was stunned, what they discussed is personal, my husband has aspergers, I explained to my friend that he watches a lot of t.v. at night. I said he sits in his seat and here are some books, he does not like to be disrupted while watching t.v. I said, I have more books, please feel free and I have movies you can watch on the t.v. on the lower level where you are staying.
I have 1400 square feet down there, with t.v. guest room, etc. Plenty of space for her to hand and chill, I do not mind her hanging out with my husband for an hour or two, but for the entire night after I go to bed, is unexceptable. I go to bed early for I have a five year old to take care of.
I bit my lip and was really upset with her for hanging out with my husband and speaking about me while I was sleeping, my husband and this woman are not friends, merely acquaintances. I decided to let it go,once more, I was upset, waking up in the middle of the night thinking what kind of friend do I have? I thought, she was only here for six days, she did it again the following evening, this time, I decided she would never stay with me again, I will just get through the motions and be excited when she left.

Then last night she preceded to give my husband a gift while I was giving my daughter a bath and said my goodnights as I prepared for bed. We have a window (contemporary house) and upon getting my daughters clothes I had seen her giving my husband his gifts. Although she told me she was giving my husband a gift, she also had the same gift for me, I felt she has crossed boundaries and I lost my cool. After telling them both I felt hurt and that she had crossed boundaries and that she is single in a married woman's home and giving my husband a gift without me being present is unexceptable. I then said that her hanging out with my husband late at night is unexceptable as well, my husband was only doing what he does every night, watch his favorite programs, she decided even after I expressed to hang downstairs after a while to bug my husband and start converstations. My husband told me she kept interrupting him and asking questions about me. Upon confronting her, she started lying, and calling me paranoid and crazy. I went downstairs to get her plane ticket I bought for her to see if I could get her on a flight out tomorrow. I bought her a flight, and paid for everything because she was having a lot of issues in Colorado and I thought she needed a nice vacation. I told her last night that I would never do what she has done with her boyfriend and she has crossed the line. I took her to falling water earlier that day, we were out all day, she told me she was so tired, said to me in the car that she felt bad for me, because she was so tired and I must be the same but I was driving, but she was too tired to take over. She then comes into the house sits down and starts hanging out with my husband. When she started lying and telling me I was paranoid, I switched the situation and said how would you feel if I hung out with your mate like this and preceded to give the examples, she ignored me and kept calling me paranoid. I said, I am not jealous I am disappointed in you, I am hurt you are crossing boundaries, this is my home. She kept lying, calling me crazy and paranoid. I snapped and cussed at her calling her a few choice words. My daughter was still up and I don't want this energy or bull**** around my 5 year old. I told her she is no longer my friend, I am done.
I want to drop her off at the airport and let her figure out if she can fly stand by on her paid ticket. Should I put up with this woman for one and a half more days or drop her off at the airport?


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If you feel this strongly about having her in your house, and it may escalate into more then it is, I would say, yes, get her out the first opportunity and return to your normal day to day activities.

Words have been exchanged and I really don't know how you can look at each other another day.

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We discussed the situation with her this afternoon when she woke up; I tried to get her a flight however she was on my rewards program and they won't bump her. I explained the situation with her, tried to work it out, however her response was I am sorry and in the same breath said, she does not care.
My husband became very upset with her for she was changing the story, lying and we both decidced she needs to go. My husband gave her a half hour to pack and she is trying to stay. My husband told her we would call the police if she does not leave. We are about to call the police to escort her out of our home, how crazy is this?

I guess you have the 'house guest from hell' and I hope the police get her out, otherwise you may end up with a permanent house guest from hell and how bad would that be ? Were you doing her a favour by inviting her for a holiday, or whatever?

I hope you are able to get her to leave. Call a taxi if you need to, put her bags in the car yourself. Hopefully it won't come down to the police needing to be called.

Friendship over... no further contact... end of story.

Enjoy the peace you'll have back in your household.

My friend lost her job and she seemed really down. I offered her my reward ticket, paid the difference and told her not to worry about paying for anything while she was here. She has finally left, took us 2.5 hrs to get her out, no police though whew

Yes, it is over and I am so thankful we did not have to use the police to remove her. We brought her to the airport, we told her she is an adult and can figure things out from there. I did say I no longer consider her my friend, moving forward!

Wow!

You must be so relieved that she is gone, and I am happy to read that your husband backed you up 100%- he deserves a hug for that.

When I first started reading your post, it sounded like you were over reacting, but, the more I read the more I realized that this was not the person you thought she was. Otherwise you'd never have had her in your home in the first place.

And you proved yourself correct when she reacted the way she did when you wanted her out, and she clearly didn't want to go and dug in her heels. Had you not done that, she would still be there, and you'd be much worse off had you not spoke your mind, and got rid of her.

Be grateful that you did, as I'm sure you are. Enjoy the peace again. :)