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crybabycry
Sep 18, 2010, 04:54 PM
My problem is that I cry too much. Ever since I was a child people have called me a sensitive person and I guess I always have been more sensitive than an average person. I don't remember at what point it really became a problem but at the moment it is a huge problem that I fear is ruining my life. I am married and my husband has just about had enough of my tendency to cry so easily. I have had enough about crying myself because I feel I can't control myself and it is making me feel hopeless. I might be smiling at one moment and crying the next. I cry even about meaningless, small things or things that should make me happy, not sad. For example, I might cry over a TV show, over touching music, over a thought that comes to my head, kissing my husband, sex with my husband, missing someone, when someone says something nice or mean to me - just over all, I cry whether I am happy or sad. I cry just about every day. It is exhausting to myself and others. Being so emotional is really exhausting, it's like being on a roller coaster and you don't know what's coming next. It is also embarrassing not to be able to control myself, I feel like a child sometimes. It is exhausting because I know my husband can't stand to see me cry and it is making him feel hopeless too. So I blame myself for giving him all this grief. I am pregnant now (and no, this is not pregnancy hormones because I was like this before I got pregnant). My husband has told me that he is fearing for our baby, what will it do to him to see his mum cry every day the way I do now. He said he is afraid of what this is doing to our marriage. I know he is at wits end and so am I. I don't want to be this way but I don't know what to do. I used to think that I am just an overly sensitive person but now I am afraid there is something truly wrong with me. I desperately need advice so if anyone has experience, please help me.

Fr_Chuck
Sep 18, 2010, 06:34 PM
So have you been to counseling or have medical exams to discover any of many various causes ?

crybabycry
Sep 18, 2010, 07:15 PM
No, I haven't. I have managed to cope with this in the past but somewhere along the way I think the problem has gotten worse. Writing this is the first and only step I've taken.

beachloverjohn
Sep 20, 2010, 03:52 PM
There is no reason for you to suffer like this. There are so many resources available nowadays, and countless types of medication to treat this type of condition. But first you have to go to a mental health counselor. There is no way anyone here can diagnose your problem, so get yourself to therapy. That should be the first step you take.

bgmnd2010
Sep 27, 2010, 11:12 PM
Hi,
Congrats on being pregnant :)
I guess you will be more emotional now!!
You can talk to your gynec / dr you are seeing and ask her what and how it will be . Maybe your husband can be with you when you ask and both of you can work it out. Tell your husband that you have started working on this problem and it will solve itself. Believe it. Don't try too hard to withhold your emotions. Maybe you can spend 20 min of each day sitting down doing nothing, just close your eyes and let your mind free to think(dont resist) and don't respond to anything during that time( this is one meditation technique) It might help you.


:) when there is a will there is a way. Don't worry about it and you should be fine.

Definitely tell your doctor as your emotions matter during this time and please relax . Ask if you can take be complex or something.
Good luck
Cheers again for being a mom
:)
Bye