Hello

I feel a little weird discussing this online but here I go.

I am a guy by the way.

When I was fifteen I was dating a eighteen year old gurl(in my state this is considered rape) but it wasn't and am not here to discuss if it was rape or not.

It so happends that I also went to school with this girl and it so happends that we lived 2 or 3 blocks away from each other. I basically had sex with this girl every day except tuesdays and Friday. This girl and me would have sex for 1-2 or maybe three ours to the poit when my penis was as soft as sponge and red, and I felt like I was in the gym for countless hours. THe whole point is that I made this girl come three to four times and somethimes. It was so much that we had to put plastic under the bedsheet.

Now three years later (now) I am datting another girl, we have been sexualy active for the past year and seven moths and I have only been able to make my girlfriend come twice:( . This is really bodering me because I like to pleasure my girlfriend. Also I feel bad because I enjoy myself a how lot but she seems like she doesn't. And the times she does seem like she enjoys it, it shows very little.

Another thing is that when I was fifteen I wasn't using condoms, and now I always use condoms with my current gurlfriend.

Do the condoms have anything to do with it or did I just loose my magic touch.

Can anyone help me with this one is really buggin me.

Sin.

El Rey

First of all, the problem with having previous partners is that people tend to compare experiances. You getting this previous girl to come many times is not the norm.

As far as each girl is different and just because she does not show the same signs that she is enjoying it as the previous does not mean she is not.

Each person has different sexual experiances. Some enjoy it more, some not. Some love foreplay, others dig right in. Some love the soft touch, some like it rough. I could go on for hours but I hope you get my point.

Communication is a big factor as well. Do you talk to each other about what feels good, what does not. What is pleasing, what is not. Have you discussed to her that you are not sure if she is enjoying it.

Oh and one more thing. Too many people, way too many people focus their attention on the almighty orgasm. The almighty orgasm is not the only thing that is needed to make sex enjoyable.

Having intercourse with a one that you completely love and just being in each other arms and holding each other tight. Not having an orgasm does not make it bad sex.

Are you better now?

Joe

P.S. It is good that you wear condoms, it is not to smart that you never used them previously.

I would suggest you keep wearing them unless you plan on marrying this girl and having children. In my experience though and probably many other guys will tell you this. Yes, it feels more natural and more exciting without a condom.

In no way, am I saying not to use one.

Er, it sounds like your past girlfriend was orgasmic. Whereby she was able to experience many orgasms without difficulty. There are many women out there that are able to come to a place of climax in such a manner. Yet, there are even more women that are not orgasmic. And will need more intimacy/foreplay in order to achieve an orgasm and or pleasure. Every woman is different.

Well after going through this forum I learned that for some reason my gulrfriend gets really tense and runs away from the orgasmic feeling. The reason why I say it is because when I play with her orally she starts shacking just like if she was going to have an orgams but before she gets there she pushes me away or she pulls herself away from me.

Thank You to every 1 for the information and advice.

Sin.

El Rey

You are very welcome ER! Hope it clarified things for you. It helps when you get different points of view. It helps round you out to hopefully find your own answers.:D