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ngibm1
Sep 12, 2010, 08:46 AM

Fr_Chuck
Sep 12, 2010, 09:16 AM
Are you still married,

Are you still living together.

If together, do you normally keep money separate

ngibm1
Sep 12, 2010, 11:40 AM
Yes to all questions; this has gone on for years, some $ paid back, but so much more not.

Fr_Chuck
Sep 12, 2010, 12:22 PM
Hard issue, first will depend on where you live, since often marital money is just that, And you will have to prove it was not merely a gift from husband and wife but a real loan.

Depending on how long ago, ( SOL may be an issue) I guess you can sue them in court. But then if you are at this point, perhaps a divorce may be a better way of solving this

ngibm1
Sep 12, 2010, 01:25 PM
Thank you

morgaine300
Sep 13, 2010, 12:58 AM
Quite personally, I don't think him owing you money is the greatest reason for divorce. There are so many divorces already going on - seems like the reasons for them are getting more and more minor. Lots of married couples have money issues - they try to work them out. You're talking about giving up a life you're developed with this man cause he owes you some money - it's not like an acquaintance.

Sorry, but I just can't jump on that divorce bandwagon quite so easily as many people seem to.

ngibm1
Sep 14, 2010, 05:09 PM
Thanks for your thoughts, but I did not bring up divorce. This situation is far away from a simple money issue. He owes me hundreds of thousands of dollars...