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aaronaddis1989
Sep 8, 2010, 12:45 PM
Me and my girlfreind have been together a year and a half and now she says I am to sensitive too jealous and obssessive and doesn't know if she wants to be with me or not what shall I do try and stick it out and see what she decides or finish it. I need help with this please help me!

BMI
Sep 8, 2010, 12:58 PM
Based on her accusations I assume you may have demonstrated same during your relationship. I am a little confused with your plan of action though. Are you suggesting that because she brought up these concerns and that she may be leaving, you, as a response, will leave first? Not sure how sound a strategy that is to be honest.

You also mention sticking it out to see what she decides. Why not talk to her, see if these things can be resolved before choosing either at this point? I see some middle ground here but I'm not so sure I see the capable players involved in reaching it.

Cat1864
Sep 8, 2010, 01:01 PM
More background information would help to be able to give you appropriate advice.

Are you too sensitive, jealous and obsessive? Is this the first time she has said anything? Is she willing to discuss the issues?

If you are insecure and it is affecting your relationship, are you willing to make changes?

Has she given you reason to be concerned such as cheating on you?

I wish
Sep 8, 2010, 01:41 PM
What you really need is to talk to her. Nail down the problems and see if you guys can tackle. As long as you're both still willing to work hard on this relationship, then you have a chance.

aaronaddis1989
Sep 13, 2010, 07:43 AM
Me and my girlfriend recently broke up and I know why but she is now saying that after nearly a year and half I am too young for her yes there is 13 years difference but how can I all of a sudden be to young please help?

JoeCanada76
Sep 13, 2010, 07:47 AM
It does not matter what the reason is. What matters now is that your girlfriend broke up with you. Ended the relationship and will be moving on.

Can you get your ex back, the clear and unequivocal answer is no and why would you want to?

So there are a few things to recap.

You can not control what other people do.
You can try to figure out why or think that it might be a certain reason but looking for reasons just prolong the healing of ending the relationship.
Year and a half is honestly not that long and I would bet your top dollar she wants to be free and single and or out and looking for somebody more compatible.

Good luck.

lamp_post
Sep 13, 2010, 08:54 PM
Yes, I got to agree on this one. I am just over with my 4 yo relationship with my girl and to a new guy and I kept asking for a sensible reason which my ex didn't give me. Asking God since and it just made it worst. It has been slightly about 2 months. It is still hard but I get to see other things. Open your eyes and L@@K. There are so much more love.

Kitkat22
Sep 13, 2010, 10:51 PM
How old are you?

silverlining
Sep 14, 2010, 01:58 PM
You say she is 13 years older than you? That's is quite a bit older.. She is probably ready for marriage/kids etc. Are you ready to offer her these things?

Homegirl 50
Sep 14, 2010, 04:26 PM
Maybe the difference in years was becoming a problem with her. So if she ends it, you have no choice but to leave her alone.

talaniman
Sep 16, 2010, 07:51 AM
She had her fun, but her feelings changed so she dumped you. Age never matters in the beginning, but things change when the lust wears off.

Kitkat22
Sep 16, 2010, 09:16 AM
She's telling you she wants out. I wish she had enough guts to say "I don't love you anymore, I don't want to be with you anymore". That's what she feels and it would be a lot easier on you if she were down right honest
Instead of making up excuses.

Count yourself lucky you found out and don't let her use you as a standby. Break it off completely and please, don't go running when she calls. NO CONTACT.