Recently I dated a guy, things were going well and all, and then while kissing he began to sometimes (only a few times) breath heavily, and touch me and as I didn't feel comfortable I grabbed his hand..
Then he told me that if I get uncomfortable I should tell him (instead I always grabed his hand and he stopped)
The question is, can it be safe to still go out with him or he might lose control or something?
He is okay, I don't think he would want to take advantage on me or something

Appreciate any advice:)

How old are you to start with?

When you ask him to stop or move his hand does he actually stop, or does he try to keep going?

I'm 16
No he stops

I wouldn't be too worried then.
If he has always stopped when you tell him to then it shows that he respects your wishes.
Have you talked to him about how far you want to go?
You don't want him to be in the mindset of "it will happen soon" if you are uncomfortable with anything.

Be upfront, say what you will and won't do so he gets the message loud and clear.

As long as he stops when you move his hand, or say NO, don't worry. Hmm, I see you finally found a guy for yourself. That's great, have fun, within reason of course.

No I haven't told him anything about how far I want to go, but I will when we get closer etc.



Hmm, I see you finally found a guy for yourself. Thats great, have fun, within reason of course.

Yeah.. guess I did:)

Thank you for taking time to help

Great! But mabey you should tell him sooner, rather than later, it may go too far and you could spiral out of control, leaving you wondering where it went wrong.

GOOD LUCK TO YA!:)

I think it is good that he stops when knows you want him to stop. If he is far from getting angry, but then what made you ask? By the way,you are 16, if he is older than you, by how much?

He is 17

Okay. There are too many of those old men going after women who obviosly are too young, and the women are too afraid of them. But he just may have had a bad experience re. the hand thing.

Hi, I'm 16 and I’ve been going out with this boy for two months now, and lately we have become boyfriend and girlfriend.
At first I really liked him.. but now, there come moments when I don’t know if I like him or not, like I don’t know if I’m just using him for not getting lonely as I have nobody else but him who comforts me (I know it’s wrong, but everyone needs someone right?).
Sometimes I think that we can last for long together,. but sometimes I see him childish and I feel not interested in him anymore.. but then again I say to myself: “nobody’s perfect.. neither are you”.
I surely don’t want to hurt him! He really seems to be into me, really cares and all and he literally said it in my face that he wouldn’t know what to do if I ever leave him. I don’t know what to do, it’s like I want him for only one reason: to have someone to love me.. but I don’t know if I'm ready to love him back :s I know I am being rude (guess I am childish here), but I don’t know what I must do/how should I feel
Any help, please :)

Welcome to being 16.

I remember when I was that age I dated or went out with this one guy, I liked him but once he became my boyfriend I didn't like him anymore.

Moral of the story is that your 16, feelings change, your still growing up, hell it still happens to me today and I'm 20 something... I like some guy, then he asks me out and then I'm like "yeah I don't think so".

Women are funny. We change out minds a lot.

So I think what your going through is normal. If you don't like him, then dump him, no use in being with someone you don't like!

It would hurt him more if you stayed with him and forced the relationship on yourself than it would be for you to dump him.

If you feel uncomfortable with him and you want some space, tell him so. Sixteen is an age when you should be concentrating on your education.

Don't feel obligated to him.. he's a boyfriend.. not a husband. Be honest and tell him how you feel... Good Luck

I guess you're right,
.. but then again, sometimes I DO like him.
I thought maybe try to be away from him for a couple of days and see how it feels like, if I don't miss him and it would feel like nothing's wrong, than I'll dump him; should I try it?

.. and thanks for helping :)

i guess you're right,
..but then again, sometimes i DO like him.
i thought maybe try to be away from him for a couple of days and see how it feels like, if i dont miss him and it would feel like nothing's wrong, than i'll dump him; should i try it?

.. and thanks for helping :)



You're welcome and be happy!:)
If you're happier without him after a couple of days or a week
Then you need to break-up permanently. :)

Thanks :)

thanks :)

You're welcome... Have a great day... Blessings:):)

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4months now (we are 16 and 17years old), but I haven't told my parents anything about it. I always told them I was going out with my friends.
I didn't tell them from the beginning, because of various reasons: because I was not sure I was going to continue going out with him and didn't want them to know about something which ends before it even starts, another reason was that I was afraid they won't let me hang out with him anymore, and last reason: they won't let me stay late etc anymore.
But now I think there has passed enough time to tell them, but the problem is how. I am really afraid how to face them. I don't want to tell them that I have been going out with him for 4months, I want to tell them that it's the 2nd/3rd time, but I'm scared of their reaction.. any suggestions/advice?

Thanks a lot for reading :)

I don't think they will be impressed if you continue lying,come clean and be honest.

It's a sign of good character if you can tell the truth and be honest,and it's a good sign that they can be proud of you.

They may want to meet the young man to 'check' him out so to speak.

When you go out and your parents want to know who you are with and what your doing,its not that their being nosy,they are responsible for you,and they are trusting you to tell the truth,they may be upset that you have been hiding where you have been and who you have been with.

My advice,be honest with them,don't sulk if they don't agree,talk to them and try and find a compromise.

Why not give your relationship more time to develop before telling your parents?

In some cultures, when you tell your parents, it means that the relationship is getting serious. Otherwise, you're just view as regular friends.

There's no reason to rush to tell your parents about a new boyfriend. A good compromise would be to introduce him to your parents as a regular friend. As long as they are aware of his existence. The label of boyfriend can come later when your parents get more comfortable with him and when your relationship with him is stronger.

If you believe you are old enough to date, you are old enough to be honest. Keeping this secret will only hurt you when all the truth does come out.

Hi, I’m 17 and I really need some help. I had been in a relationship for more than seven months, with time we began to take it more seriously and showed each other to our parents and our friends and all. Things were going on just great! Last 2/3 weeks I have been seeing some changes in our relationship though, like, we spent less and less time together, and spent time with his friends instead (it was either double-date or me with him and his friends etc.) and although I really wanted some quality time with him, like alone for a couple of hours not minutes, but unfortunately that never got to happen as he broke up with me a few days ago. I have to mention here that meanwhile I didn’t have any friends as I no longer met or talked to the ones I used to be friends with. The only friends I still have are his own fiends, which are really helpful! They were the only persons I found when I was in need! But the thing is, I don’t know if they want me to still hang out with them or not, I don’t know if they just don’t want me to hang out with them so that I will not see him anymore and move on faster, or if is doesn’t make a difference to them at all! I don’t know what to do! Me and my ex had agreed to stay friends, but I got to admit, I am more friends with his relatives (which I am really not close to them) then I am with him!
Please help me, what should I do to:
Move on and get him out of my heart and mind
Get on with these friends without making it obvious that I am truly dying for some company! (they are really good friends!) ?

I appreciate any help given

Hey.
Im just going through my 1st break up as well and me and my ex have decided to stay friends but trust me it makes things so much harder. I totally understand what your going through... Everything reminds you of them, you don't think you will cope, one minute your fine the next your not. I know it's so frustrating but you will be OK. As for staying friends with his friends its OK to stay in contact with them but probably not the best idea to hang around with them as you will be with your ex and all those feelings you had will just come rushing back. You should think about joining some kind of club or trying to make things OK between you and your old mates again.
You will be OK and things will get easier. Just think how many people have been through the same as you, they all got through it, so will you.
All the best xx

You need your own life with your own friends, and your own activities that you enjoy.. Then you won't have to depend on him, or his friends to be happy. I have followed all your posts and that all you needed from the get go before you got with this guy. No excuses, explore the world around you.

Thanks for helping :)

But currently I can't make any friends without going out, and I can't go out if I don't have anyone to hang with.
His friends truly accept me and although it is a little bit hard for me if I hang out with his friends as he may be there, I find it even harder when I see I've got nobody to take my mind of with.
I seems that the fact that I can't see him, even as a friend, hurts so much.
.. I don't know what to do :(

But thanks for the help anyway, I really appreciate :)