I use to get my wife to ogasm but since menapause, she just can't get it up. Is this medical or psychological?

This is a condition (social and psycogenic) that requires psychological help, but may also have it's relation to medical. Therefore, you should consult with your Physician, first and if a referral is needed, he/she will do so.

Even if she enjoy sex, her response may be stifled or inhibited, causing her to inflict upon her partner, eroding their relationship, casting doubt upon his masculinity, and not infrequently reducing him to impotence. This equals the harm she inflict upon herself (anxiety, deep frustration, resentments).

Hope this answers your question!

REFERENCE(S)

1. OralCaress.com, 2006. FEMALE SEXUALITY AND FEMALE ORGASMS (http://www.oralcaress.com/female_orgasm.htm)

Easier said is that once a woman reaches the age of menopause she gets less lubricated so intercourse may become painful. This is one of the medical reasons.

One of the psychological reasons may be that she is past childbearing age, and it is psychological in nature in that many women tend to feel less "womanly" when they can no longer have children.

I agree with the advice above in that she should see her regular physican and possibly get a referral to a counselor if needed.

I use to get my wife to ogasm but since menapause, she just can't get it up. Is this medical or psychological?
Could be either, could be both. Has she talked to her doctor about it? Does she even care? It may matter more to you than it does to her.

My wife seems relieved not to be bothered by sex any more. She's doesn't care, and I'm not able, so we're perfectly matched, it seems. I still miss it though.

Whatever the problem there are other ways of showing love you know, so while your trying to figure out what's going on do the other things like breakfast in bed or such so she knows you care no matter what.