Ok so my girlfriend lives 30minutes away from me and were both super busy and she wants to break up. I really don't and need some tips on how to try and keep us from not separating. Please I need help!

You can't make her stay in a relationship if she wants out.

Let her go and move on.

Thanks I don't know if it really helps me the only weird part is going to go from in a relationship to being friends (we've been close friends forever)

Unfortunately, you can't keep it together if she wants to separate. I'm not even sure you can remain friends. How do you think that will be healthy for you? You'll always be remembering how things used to be and wanting them back again.

Ya ik we broke up =/ but we're 14 so you it won't matter

Once one of my "Friends" texted my girlfriend from my phone and asked her If she was a hermafrodite. Well this completely pissed her off. And still after half a year this "Friend" keeps telling her that it was me and not him. I need some help to get him to stop please.

If you would answer a question or two it will help.

How old are you?

Do you still hang around with your "friend" who caused the trouble?

Is she still your girlfriend , or did this cause you to break up?

How soon did you find out about it, what did you do then?

I don't really hang around this "friend" anymore.
I'm 14.
It didn't cause a break up we r still go back and forth because of thing going on like school.
I found out about it 5 minutes later and I told her it was this "friend" and she believed me only because she had met him before and knows he can be a jerk.

Ok so me and this girl have been friends since we were really little. For a while we had lost contact and a year ago we got back in touch and starte dating. We dated at the beginning of the year and became friends with benefits all summer. After about 4monthes we started dateing again and broke up because of school, and after school activities. The first time it was her idea to be friends with benefits and I want to know if it's really OK to be that at 14? Even now after we broke up she still wants to go to the fair and the fireworks with me. I guess I'm really just wondering if we should do that or not.

Do you mean "friends with benefits" as in having sex. If so, absolutely NOT is it OK. You are far too young and its against the law.

Agreed. You are too young to be having sex. Sex is not a recreational sport. Sex is is something shared between two people who have a deep and committed relationship. And no one should engage in sexual intercourse until they are financially, physically and emotional prepared to have a child.

I would say its OK to to go to the fair with this girl, at your age, hanging out like that is fine. But I would be more inclined to stay away from her. She is promiscuous and that is dangerous.

Your 14 she's 14,the straight answer is NO.

Factor in the mental and emotional trauma this will have on both of you.

If you think 'trauma' is over the top,how about if she gets pregnant? Std's? Your parents finding out,her parents finding out.

Stay away from sex until your older wiser and more able to deal with the consequences.

I don't think you mean friends with benefits as that applies to having sex with no commitment, and 14 year olds don't need to be playing with sex, no way, no how.

If you are talking about dating as friends with no strings attached, now that's a different thing, and okay as long as its cool with the parents.

Once one of my "Friends" texted my girlfriend from my phone and asked her If she was a hermafrodite. Well this completely pissed her off. And still after half a year this "Friend" keeps telling her that it was me and not him. I need some help to get him to stop please.

If it was you and you knew what a hermaphrodite was, you would not have to ask. Therefore it wasn't you or else none of you knows what a hermaphrodite is, which is what I'm beginning to suspect... Too much drama here. Since she has broken up with you anyway, I would stop worrying about this. Find a better friend, too.

Is it OK to be friends with benefits at 14?


No.. it isn't.

No! Not like that!

Please understand your wording, friends with benefits are two people who merely have sex for the sake of having sex. They are friends but not dating.

Tos people! No having sex! Just like kissing!

Darn it, kissing is for your girlfriend, not your friend, what's wrong with you?

I mean. God people! Not having sex! Just kissing!

She isn't your girlfriend any more so don't kiss her, or you both will be cofused more than you are already.

NO kissing!

Well idc every body who thinks that the sex is the only thing that can mean is incapable of understanding what I mean. No I don't mean it that way. So get over it!

Well idc every body who thinks that the the sex is the only thing that can mean is retarted. No I don't mean it that way. So get over it!

PLEASE DO NOT USE THE WORD RETARDED on this site. It is disrespectful for people who may have children with learning disabilities or who are mentally and emotionally handicapped. You have shown me by using that word , you aren't ready for a girlfriend or kissing.

Ou guys don't under stand! Not having sex!! Just kissing!!

Tos people! No haveing sex! Just like kissing!

Friends with benefits refers to sex.

So when you used that phrase we thought you meant sex.


Your reaction was good. You were shocked !
And at 14 that's what you should be.
It appears you are smart enough not to try that.


A kiss occasionally between friends is OK.
Hanging out and spending the entire day
Kissing is not fine.

You will have the next 70 to 90 years to do that.
Go out and be 14.

I'd suggest something I did at 14 but that was so long
Ago glaciers covered all of Canada and the northern states.
So I won't.


Keep thinking before you act.
It shows maturity to ask about important decisions
You are making.


All of these people who took the time to
Answer you are intelligent and caring people.


All the answers (if you agree or not) were posted
To try to help you not make the same mistakes we
See 14 yr olds make every day,

These are mistakes that can ruin your life.

Ou guys don't under stand! Not haveing sex!!! Just kissing!!!!

When you learn to spell and not use chat speak or text speak, you may be ready for a girlfriend.

Well idc every body who thinks that the the sex is the only thing that can mean is retarted. No I don't mean it that way. So get over it!

It is against the rules and plain rude to call anyone names.

And using the word retard like you did shows you are still immature in
Some ways.
It shows you to be uncaring unthoughtful , and a lot of people think it shows you are not smart enough to find a more appropriate word.

I know you are smart . You can find better ways to tell someone you don't agree.

It is against the rules and plain rude to call anyone names.

And using the word retard like you did shows you are still immature in
some ways.
It shows you to be uncaring unthoughtful , and a lot of people think it shows you are not smart enough to find a more appropriate word.

I know you are smart . You can find better ways to tell someone you don't agree.

Good advice Marty.

I can't believe just asking that has blown up into this! Can everyone just stop answering this I get it and I didn't mean what some people think. And don't look down upon me just because I have bad spelling.

I can't believe just asking that has blown up into this!? Can everyone just stop answering this I get it and I didn't mean what some people think. And don't look down upon me just because I have bad spelling.!

No one was looking down on you.

Everyone was trying to help, although there was a misunderstanding that caused some tension, you did not do much to help.

It was partially because of the poor spelling and grammar your post was difficult to understand.
You familiar with spell check?

I use it a lot, I don't spell very well but want to be understood so I check spelling.

When there is a communication problem , calmly discuss it.
When you are understood , and you understand then you have a chance of some progress.

And I can't speak for anyone but me ,

No problem here,. I will stop answering.

I'm out of here

I'm sorry for saying what I said. I'm just a little mad at everyonebfor taking it the wroung way.

Well almost out of here. I'm hijacking a little.


Wondergirl agrees : You beat me to it! (My husband will be in Moab in three weeks. Watch for him.)

He going for fun or profit or prophet?

Still hot down there , pack sunscreen.

Moab is one of my favorite places.

This is your wake-up call to write and explain more precisely so you don't end up with all sorts of people laboring under all sorts of misunderstandings. We really do love you and want you to be happy.

Well almost out of here. I'm hijacking a little.
I'll help hijack.

He going for fun or profit or prophet?
For fun -- goes twice a year to camp and hike.

Still hot down there, pack sunscreen.
He's done it for 20 years. I stay home and have my own kind of vacation.

Moab is one of my favorite places.
His too. He'd move there in a minute.

Thanks, OP, for allowing us to borrow some space.

I'm sorry for saying what I said. I'm just a little mad at everyonebfor taking it the wroung way.

And they might be a little mad because you made it easy to take the wrong way.

And it didn't help.

You and I have exchanged a few sentences and have made it clear.

Friends with benefits (as you used it) means kissing. Not sex.

Do we now understand each other?

Kissing at 14 can be more trouble than you think.

Kissing at 14 can be more trouble than you think.

I agree Tal

And by the way to the people that say kissing is bad at my age; I've only kissed a girl twice and both times it was the same girl.

And by the way to the people that say kissing is bad at my age; I've only kissed a girl twice and both times it was the same girl.

Kissing gets the hormones going and if you and the girl aren't careful you could be in big trouble.

And by the way to the people that say kissing is bad at my age; I've only kissed a girl twice and both times it was the same girl.

So you know what it's like now.

You should be good to put it off a few years.

It is going to cause you to be extremely tempted
To be foolish and not think about the problems going
Farther will bring you.

It is not that great to chance ruining your life over.

Also I need to add, if this kissing is going on in school you could get into trouble.

There is a no physical contact policy in the zero tolerance rules about touching and kissing. Any form of contact is grounds for ISS or suspension.

You may as well learn now to think with your brain, and not your hormones. Trust me, just give it some thought for a while, as all that feels good ain't good for you. You need some real facts and knowledge before you go exploring a willing females face.

We are just trying to save you some frustration, and problems, later is all.

It doesn't happen at school, we don't even go to the same school.

It doesn't happen at school, we don't even go to the same school.

The only thing I am going to say; Don't try to grow up to fast. Enjoy being a kid.:)

No one said that kissing is bad. But kissing without emotional attachment is wrong.