loveless044
Sep 3, 2010, 03:07 PM
I'm back again talking about my "love" life...
Here's a crazy dilemma... I'm sure you all have read the posts about my [ex] boyfriend... Well I don't know where to start here... So here goes...
After my boyfriend, Don and I started dating back in February, he soon after told me that my friend, Rob (who has had a crush on me for about four years) is his cousin. Well we were already about a month into the relationship and Rob wasn't mad about it. He was actually happy for me. He said that he would have been mad had he already asked me out and I turned him down, or if I knew that they were cousins.
Well he and I remained friends, and he's such a sweet heart. He's never really had a girlfriend and he's just a great person to talk to about anything. I told him he'd make some girl very happy someday. I just hope he didn't take it as me hinting that the girl won't be me because I didn't mean it that way. But I'm not saying that it's a possibility either.
Anyway, after Don and I broke up, somehow Rob and I ended up talking even more. And sometimes my friend Ken (that's a girl) and I would ride over to his house to see him. I have never gon over his house by myself. Always with her. I didn't even know where he lived until she showed me. Ken is also Rob's cousin but no relation to Don. Rob and my cousin Keith both play football. So does Don. Well sometimes Ken and I would go pick up Rob and Keith and give them a ride to football practice. I know that Don thinks that it's wrong for me to be hanging around his cousin but his cousin was my friend first, and had I known they were cousins from the start, I wouldn't have gone out with Don, but I didn't know that. And I couldn't just dump Don just because he was related to my friend who had a crush on me (though now I regret not having left him) because I had no intention on ever being anything more than friends with Rob. Plus, that wouldn't have been fair towards Don.
Well as strange as it may seem, those feelings have changed. He's so sweet and actually cares about me. He cares about me now as a friend far more than Don did as my boyfriend. And of course Rob still has a crush on me.
Last week someone on the football team told Don that I saw Rob's "private area". Well it was true but it wasn't true. Here's how it really was: the first day that Ken and I went to his house it was raining so we parked in his driveway and he sat in the car with us. We asked to hold his phone, and Ken and I began going through his pictures. He warned us not to but we did. And there was a picture of it in his photos. Well Rob, being a virgin, was pretty happy about the size of it, and somehow got the impression that I was too, due to my lack of words afterwards. I wasn't shocked at all. But he went to football practice, let someone hold his phone, they saw a message that he sent me saying "it's big isn't it", and they told Don that I saw it. So he was angry about it, thinking that I was messing around with his cousin. And he started acting funnier towards me afterwards. [we, of course, were broken up at the time and still are but we were still on a "check-in on one another" basis]
Well I don't know if I'm wrong for even thinking about taking things further with Rob or not. It's so confusing because they're cousins but it's not like I knew that. And had I not dated Don, eventually I would have started having these feelings for Rob anyway. What exactly should I do. I just don't want to lose anyone in the process of making this decision.
It's not that I plan to date Rob or anything but I'm wondering, does Don really have a reason to be angry at me about being closer with Rob?
Should I stop being so close with Rob since I wasn't this close with him before I hooked up with Don?
Should I just not worry about how my ex feels and just continue to do what I'm doing? But other's who don't know that I was friends with Rob first might see it as me messing around with family.
What should I do?
Here's a crazy dilemma... I'm sure you all have read the posts about my [ex] boyfriend... Well I don't know where to start here... So here goes...
After my boyfriend, Don and I started dating back in February, he soon after told me that my friend, Rob (who has had a crush on me for about four years) is his cousin. Well we were already about a month into the relationship and Rob wasn't mad about it. He was actually happy for me. He said that he would have been mad had he already asked me out and I turned him down, or if I knew that they were cousins.
Well he and I remained friends, and he's such a sweet heart. He's never really had a girlfriend and he's just a great person to talk to about anything. I told him he'd make some girl very happy someday. I just hope he didn't take it as me hinting that the girl won't be me because I didn't mean it that way. But I'm not saying that it's a possibility either.
Anyway, after Don and I broke up, somehow Rob and I ended up talking even more. And sometimes my friend Ken (that's a girl) and I would ride over to his house to see him. I have never gon over his house by myself. Always with her. I didn't even know where he lived until she showed me. Ken is also Rob's cousin but no relation to Don. Rob and my cousin Keith both play football. So does Don. Well sometimes Ken and I would go pick up Rob and Keith and give them a ride to football practice. I know that Don thinks that it's wrong for me to be hanging around his cousin but his cousin was my friend first, and had I known they were cousins from the start, I wouldn't have gone out with Don, but I didn't know that. And I couldn't just dump Don just because he was related to my friend who had a crush on me (though now I regret not having left him) because I had no intention on ever being anything more than friends with Rob. Plus, that wouldn't have been fair towards Don.
Well as strange as it may seem, those feelings have changed. He's so sweet and actually cares about me. He cares about me now as a friend far more than Don did as my boyfriend. And of course Rob still has a crush on me.
Last week someone on the football team told Don that I saw Rob's "private area". Well it was true but it wasn't true. Here's how it really was: the first day that Ken and I went to his house it was raining so we parked in his driveway and he sat in the car with us. We asked to hold his phone, and Ken and I began going through his pictures. He warned us not to but we did. And there was a picture of it in his photos. Well Rob, being a virgin, was pretty happy about the size of it, and somehow got the impression that I was too, due to my lack of words afterwards. I wasn't shocked at all. But he went to football practice, let someone hold his phone, they saw a message that he sent me saying "it's big isn't it", and they told Don that I saw it. So he was angry about it, thinking that I was messing around with his cousin. And he started acting funnier towards me afterwards. [we, of course, were broken up at the time and still are but we were still on a "check-in on one another" basis]
Well I don't know if I'm wrong for even thinking about taking things further with Rob or not. It's so confusing because they're cousins but it's not like I knew that. And had I not dated Don, eventually I would have started having these feelings for Rob anyway. What exactly should I do. I just don't want to lose anyone in the process of making this decision.
It's not that I plan to date Rob or anything but I'm wondering, does Don really have a reason to be angry at me about being closer with Rob?
Should I stop being so close with Rob since I wasn't this close with him before I hooked up with Don?
Should I just not worry about how my ex feels and just continue to do what I'm doing? But other's who don't know that I was friends with Rob first might see it as me messing around with family.
What should I do?