Please help... I have been with this guy for 3 years and we have a baby. He used to be a drug addict and used cocaine, he made me do it with him, I have never try any drugs before, and things got weird, he started to act gay and ask me to have anal sex wit a strap on, I did it because I was high too... then he will ask me to have this kind of sex all night long I mean 8 hours. Then when he used to get real high. He used to say gays names wile having sex with me, like he had no control over his mouth and he told that he hated me because I was making him to tell me the true, and he told he likes **** :(... then when he was not high anymore he said that I made him say that and that he was not gay... I am worry about this because I see that his 2 best friend are gay and his favorite uncle is gay too and some guy left a massage on his cell calling him husband, buy he denied everything. Plus he works out of town and when he goes away he goes to clubs and start to talk with girls I caught him talking to 5 different girls already. I think he is gay or bi. I can't leave him and I don't understand why, he says that he loves me all the time but now I get jealous for everything and I feel miserable. He stop asking me for anal sex or doing drugs since my baby was born, but I don't know what to do now. Does cocaine makes you say things that you don't want to? Please if any one have ever been trough something like this please let me know.

Red flag 1: He made you do drugs.
Red flag 2: He 'forced' you to do something you aren't all that comfortable with.
Red flag 3: Blaming you for what he does when he is high.
Red Flag 4: Signs of Emotional Abuse.
Red flag 5: you have a kid together.

Why are you with him? Don't let time invested in this relationship make you stay. I really think you should cut your loses and find someone else. This isn't healthy and is no way to raise your child.

I don't know if cocaine will do this or not. I have never taken it.

I've done a bit of blow in my time. It can make you think anything you feel like doing or saying is brilliant. The proper term is euphoria.

Users often use the drug as an excuse for other bad behaviors and poor decisions.

As far as advice goes, I would say let him decide between the White Lady or the Real Lady(you).

Was he having sex with men, did he want or ask to ?
So he has some stranger desires than others, so what ?
If you don't want to do these things, just say no.

Drugs was the largest problem,

He only stopped drugs after the baby was born. I hope that you were not still doing drugs with him during your pregancy?

There are more excuses people have for just about any behaviour, than Elvis has sequens. It is one thing to excuse being late for dinner, but to excuse (possibly) his sexual dishonesty because the drugs made him do/say it, or because you made the words come out of his mouth? C'mon here, let's not offer up supporting excuses for him. Trying to understand the behaviour of an active drug user is like trying to fry an egg on top of an igloo.

The issue as I see it, in my opinion, is that he is obviously promiscuous, and at the very least, you have obvious reasons not to trust his fidelity and commitment to you and your child. If you have to wonder where he goes, and who he is with, does it really matter if he's gay, bi or straight?

Any one of those sexual orientations, does not exclude them from being good parents, or pre-dispose them to be bad parents. Parenting has nothing to do with sexual orientation in other words. His relationship with you is the big question here.

What it also has to do with is honesty, so that you can make an informed choice, as opposed to guessing what is going on with him.

Only you can define what the relationship means to you. Is it based on honesty, trust, communication? Or are you just prepared to sit and accept things as they are, with all your questions and concerns.

If you can live with the doubts, and the dishonesty, and hope for the best, you are the only one that can make that call.

For the sake of the baby, and your own future, I hope you get the answers you need.