Nothing happening at the moment. I was just reading a book about a guy getting married and wanted to ask this question:

What's a good fun way to have a bachelorette/bachelor party without strippers?

My opinion of a good one is to either have both parties together with everyone involved. Maybe going out and drinking. Maybe everyone going out to eat or bowling or something fun like that.

I've been to a bachelorette party before and all we did was go out to the bars to drink. It was fun. But I was thinking of doing something a little different with it.

Everybody that has bachelorette/bachelor parties... all they do is go to the strip club or buy a personal stripper. That's old school I think. Everyone does that! My opinion of that, going to the strip club or getting a personal stripper for the person getting married isn't celebrating the last time being a single man or woman. Some people that are married go to the strip club anyway, so...

Anyway, what do you guys think??

My boyfriend has been best man at many many many weddings (its a standing joke)... these guys are in there 30's.

None of them wanted a stripper,just a guys night out.

Some booked a hotel and had an adventure weekend,including rock climbing,white water rafting.

At another stag,the best man wanted to go to a beer festival.

Another went rally driving.

Another sea fishing off the coast of ireland,spending the night in a small B&B,drinking that evening in a small smoky pub singing along with the trad band (trad,is old irish music playing on tin whistle,accordion,flute,ect)

It's a myth that its your last night of freedom,that's a load of BS.

If a guy or girl is going to cheat on their stag,their going to cheat anywhere.

It would not bother me in the least if brendan spent a stag in the company of stripers,and if I was there id probably spend the night asking how she does her makeup!

Mixed or together,its about having a good night,it's a tradition.

Your right about it being about having a good time. I agree. I would just prefer no stripper lol... not unless I was the one doing the stripping lmao!

Strippers are just doing their job.

If your worried about him cheating he's going to do it anyway.

If your worried about him getting turned on that can happen in church or the supermarket.

Men are visual creatures,they look.

Look at why you don't want him to have strippers on a shag,that's where the problem is.

Its your insecurity.

If you trust him,there's no problem,if not,there's a big problem.

A person can trust another person and still feel some type of way about the stripper thing though.

That's personal preferance,if its want you like or dislike,not what the other person may like or dislike.

Its when you impose your like or dislike on another person that the problems arise.

People make their own decisions and choices,he has his you have yours.

Why do you feel uncomfable about him seeing a stripper on a stag when he's going to be with a bunch of guys?

I don't know why I would feel uncomfortable to tell you the truth. He would be the STAR of the bachelor party because he is the one that would be getting married so the strippers would be all over him... not his friends lol. I just don't like the fact of having another girl all over my man, that's all

But she's doing a job,she's getting paid... shes not going to be all over YOUR guy,it could be any guy!

What does he have to say about it?

He doesn't have anything to say about it because we're not getting married right now so nothing has been planned. We'll probably be engaged for another year or 2. We don't have wedding money.

This was just a question I wanted to ask because I saw it in a book that I was reading. Doesn't have anything to do with me at the moment.

OK,stop worrying about something that's way in the future,by the time it comes around he may not want a stripper type party.

Your relationship will grow and mature,focus on the now.

Thanks redhead for not judging :)