View Full Version : My family doesn't allow me to go out often and by myself.
sonny1988
Aug 29, 2010, 06:09 AM
Hi people. I'm 22 male. Is it OK to feel lonely sometimes! I do and get depressed. I am leading a very good life but I am single and its driving me crazy. Its easy to say go out and get a girlfriend but my family doesn't allow me to go out often and by myself. I always have to lie or sneak out. I have met this girl recently, we go out and hangout but she doesn't want relationship. So I feel awe-full now sitting here and typing my feelings on the computer. I really don't want to be like this. I go out and play, work 40 hours a week, spend time in and out, but there is a part of my mind which makes me feel lonely as I feel right now.
talaniman
Aug 29, 2010, 06:16 AM
At 22 you sound like your still trying to be independent from your parents so where in the world are you??
Devorameira
Aug 29, 2010, 06:46 AM
Why don't you move into a place of your own and get away from your family's influence? If you work 40 hours a week, you should be able to afford housing.
sonny1988
Sep 1, 2010, 04:46 AM
Hi I can't move away from my family at the moment. I live in New Zealand , but I belong to an Indian family. We are pretty modern but when it comes to letting your youngest one out and about on his own they get reluctant. I have no way out..
Devorameira
Sep 1, 2010, 04:56 AM
Since this is actually a part of your culture, you need to focus on the positive. You do get out to work and run around some, so you're not a total "shut-in".
I know nothing about your culture, but I am curious. At what point in time will your family give you more freedom?
I know you said the girl doesn't want a relationship, so you got to accept that, but don't let that be the end of your world. She's just not "the one" for you.