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shellymiller
Aug 28, 2010, 08:00 PM
Had a great date with s neurosurgeon, that just got out of a serious relationship a couple of months ago... its been 6 days since our date. Do I wait for him to call?

Kitkat22
Aug 28, 2010, 08:07 PM
Yes. If he's interested he'll call you. If not , it's better to know now. Wait until he calls...

Devorameira
Aug 29, 2010, 05:13 AM
Definitely wait until he calls. It's possible that he's not interested, but being a neurosurgeon he may just be really busy.

redhed35
Aug 29, 2010, 06:34 AM
Neurosurgeon, carpenter,bricklayer,there all guys.

And if there's one thing I know,its if a guy is interested he will pin down a time and date if he wants to see you again.

Keep enjoying your life,date lots of guys and don't get hung up on just one.

shellymiller
Aug 30, 2010, 07:03 PM
All, thank you for your responses! I should've mentioned that I was he's first date since he's last relationship. Also, he was deathly ILL a week before our date, he was in the hospital that whole week - he has no family here and when I saw him for our date, I asked him how he was doing- he began to tell me that he has never felt so alone, scared and that Dr's thought he wasn't going to make it. While he was telling me he began to tear up. I felt so bad for him but he was trying to hide he's tears. So I slowly changed the subject. We began to talk about family, parents, my siblings and my kids (he doesn't have any) he said he wanted to meet them and kept mentiong how much he loves kids. Anyhow, at the end he asked me if he could call and I of course said yes. Then he leaned over to kiss but I just gave him a peck... I normally would wait or move on but I'm afraid that since I am he's first date, becoming emotional on our 1st date and with his recent illness; maybe he doesn't know dating etiquette, embarressed, or not quite 100% feeling better... Is it okay to call him considering these factors?

Jake2008
Aug 30, 2010, 07:30 PM
If he has exchanged phone numbers with you, then what's the big deal if you call him.

He may be a little socially awkward as you say, or he may be regretting getting so emotional on his first date and figures you aren't interested. Or, he may simply be giving you an opportunity to pick up the ball that is in your court, and call.

I would keep it simple, lunch in a public place sort of thing. He seems to have a lot of problems that are right on the surface, and you do not know him well enough to judge his stability, for lack of a better word.

If you want a second date, you may just have to make the move yourself.

I wish
Aug 31, 2010, 06:53 AM
It's the 21st century. What's wrong with taking the initiative and making the call yourself?

shellymiller
Aug 31, 2010, 10:16 AM
Thank you! I will call him this evening. I was just uncomfortable at first because I guess I'm old fashioned but then again with the factors I mentioned in my prior post I was unsure if this changed the "dating rules"... it sounds like it does. I'm quite nervous as it’s been over a week.. . Well, wish me good luck! Thank you again!