I want to end it, because I feel we have gone too far. I don't know how to end it though, because we have been talking for over a year, he knows where I live, and if I were to end it he has dirty pictures and videos of me that he could post on the web which I don't think he would do but I don't know... when he gets mad he kind of goes crazy. My friends tell me to end it now... and I have tried to before, in the beginning of this year... but he missed me... and I missed him.

I like him a lot... but he is 19 going on 20... and well he thinks I'm 16... but I'm only 14.

My mom doesn't know and one of my friends told me that I should either tell him my real age, tell him that I don't want ot talk to him anymore because my mom found out, or because I met a guy and I don't think that we should talk anymore. Either way its going to hurt his feelings and I know that I shouldn't have carried on with this for so long...

I'm so scared that he is going to try to hurt me in some way if I tell him that I no longer want to talk to him...
I'm supposed to tell him tonight... but I'm still having second thoughts about what I should say.


If you have ever been in this type of situation or if you have any advice about it... let me know. I've never been in this type of problem before... and there's so many consequences that could come from me ending this... he was even thinking about visiting me... and I think that's what's going to hurt the most... because we both had pretty strong feelings for each other... and I can't even imagine how he's going to handle this... I know I'd b heart broken if he felt this way about me.

The best thing you've done is to seek advice. Now you'll have to follow it.

If you're only 14 you are way, WAY over your head. If you feel you really can't talk to your mother, go to your school principal or guidance counselor so that they will help you go to your local police department. The police can trace your email to the other party and put a stop to this stuff.

And don't be surprised if he really has way more problems than you know about. He could be over 30 years old. This is not love. Love would not have you displaying your body to a stranger who you do not know.

Iloveyou, did you "meet" this guy through MySpace by any chance?
As this sounds like a classic case of Child Grooming (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_grooming).

RUN AWAY, DO NOT MEET HIM !!!

Before I get to your actual problem I have to address something here:

DO YOU KNOW FOR SURE THAT HE IS TELLING THE TRUTH ABOUT WHO HE IS!!

Too many times girls, like yourself, are rapped and killed from internet relationships meeting in the realworld. I don't want you to end up like that, and to be honest it was a horrible deciscion to tell him where you live. I have to say I fear for your safety. That is why you need to let him down easy... for fear that if you break his heart he may come after you.

For letting him down easy, I would say you just explain to him that you no longer want a relationship. Just say that you want to focus on you and your friends and you don't want to have to worry about anyone else. Tell him that you just need to be alone, so that you can find out who you are. And that if he really cares about you, he will let you go. Just make sure that you tell him in the nicest way but most specific and definite way possible. That way there should be no misunderstandings. If he says ANTHING TO SPOOK YOU, REPORT IT TO YOUR MOM OR THE AUTHORITIES! PLEASE DO THIS FOR ME AND EVERYONE ELSE, IF HE DOES ANYTHING TELL SOMEBODY! I know you have feelings for him, and it's only right, but with the power of the internet, people can trick anybody and I don't want to see you on the cover of a newspaper.

Anyway, just remember to tell him the old it's not you, it's me line. Because if you say you found someone else, than he could really jealous and come find you. That's why it's best to say, that you just feel that you need to get to know the real you, and just concentrate on what your doing and that alone. I hope that everything works out for you, but again please tell somebody if he acts weird, and trust me you will know, I hope this helped, and good luck...

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave, when first we study to deceive". This is very serious and extremely dangerous. First of all, tell your mother or some other trustworthy adult the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth IMMEDIATELY, before having any further communication with him. You need all the help you can get untangling yourself from this web. Yes, it will be embarrassing to admit how foolish you've been, but far better to suffer embarrassment than to be harmed by this guy. I like Miss V's advice to go with an adult to the police so they can trace his email and stop him before he has a chance to do you harm. You may think you know him, but you don't. He may or may not be who you think he is, and you can't afford to take the chance of trying to get out of this on your own without adult help and protection.

Well, for 1 you shouldn't of lied about your age, made videos and pix like that, and you should end this as soon as possible.One time, my mom told me one of her friends in college started dating this guy, and he just wouldn't leave her alone.I mean , atfirst she liked him, but she tired of his ways reall quick.Now what most girls would do is get a restraining order if hwe kept following you around,which is a good idea since this lady was like 29 when this happened, but insead she turned around and told him she was pregnant and that he could be the one.BUt don't say that , because he might use it as an excuse to see you, which you don't want.WHAT YOU SHOULD DO is talk to a friends mom, principal or someone close to you and if you don't want to dump him by yourself have them sit beside you on the computer so you don't feel helpless in his computer presence.YOu really need to take care of this.If that don't work with a adults help and the polices help, then post me a message and I'll will kick his butt from wherever you live to somewhere you don't live.You aren't my age, but I have been known in my school to hurt guys that don't treat peeps right you know?Hope I helped let me know how it turns out.

Something similar happened to me over the summer! You just have to tell him your real age and say that you don't feel comfortable talking to him anymore and that he needs to leave you alone! I know it sounds harsh, but it's the only way these online predators will give up on you! If they are rejected!