View Full Version : Should I end the break now or wait?
Boristheblade
Aug 23, 2010, 05:38 AM
So... myself and my boyfriend decided to take a break because I have been confused about my feelings for him/ our relationship recently and have started to push him away. The thing is... I love him. I know I love him, but for some reason I don't feel like I fully want to be in the relationship any more. He's a fantastic man and things are great but I can't help feeling like I want to see what else is out there. My question is if I'm sure that's how I feel I should break up with him now even though the allocated break time isn't over. Or wait to see how I feel after the break time is up, or stay in a relationship with this wonderful man that I love and try instead to deal with these feelings of wanting to break free for a while?
Please help me I am very confused.
Devorameira
Aug 23, 2010, 05:44 AM
Don't stay in a relationship when you feel you are missing out on something else.
Do the honorable thing and break up with him now and let him find a girl that is happy and content to only be with him.
talaniman
Aug 23, 2010, 06:38 AM
There is nothing wrong with wondering what else is out there and wanting to explore. Its wrong to keep someone hanging, waiting, and wondering what's up with you.
As a guy, I would probably be considering my options, and look to leave you to deal with your own confusion, and frankly it's a real red flag to need a break instead of working through things together, because you should know that anything can happen on a break, including dating others if you have not bothered to define the terms of the break.
Some guys won't play that waiting game, (I sure wouldn't), and maybe you should be making up your mind pretty darn quick, because you are either single, or in a relationship. You can't have it both ways, and that's not fair so make a decision, and stick to it.
Boristheblade
Aug 23, 2010, 06:47 AM
We did try and work through things, this break is a last resort. And we have defined the terms we are still together in terms of rules.
I know I need to choose quick but I don't know how?