I'm being very careful. My Chilton's manual show the location (1991 Civic) for main relay right above hood release-- nothing there. Moved fuse panel- can't find a thing.found a relay with 6wire plus in to RIGHT of steering column. Where is main relay? How big is it? What markings are on it?

It's located just above fuse box. Turn the ignition switch on/off, then you can hear/feel it click.