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slondono168
Aug 21, 2010, 07:28 AM
I was in relationship with my ex girlfriend for 8 months, at the end I was tired and fed up because all we did was argue and I pretty much got annoyed of everything. Our relationship had our ups and downs but at the end all we did was argue and I just couldn't take anymore. After we broke up about a month later we started talking again. Everything was good I feeling that spark again like when we started. We chose to be friends until we know that we can work this out before getting back together. All of sudden she changed on me completely. I never saw her attitude like this before. She told me she was happy being alone because she wouldn't have to worry about arguing and she was free to chill with who ever she wants.
Im 20 years old and she's 18. I love her I really do, I know I made a mistake by leaving her and I wouldn't try so hard to work things out with her if I didn't. She tells me she loves me but sometimes I have my doubts by the way she carries herself. She talks to me different now than before. Every time I'm with her I see her phone go off every second because her guy friends keeps wanting to talk to her. I know we are young and we need to give each other our space but how am I suppose to feel right now? I treated this girl right, I never cheated her and I was always honest? So I tell myself why is she doing this to me? Is she taking me for granted or something? The things she tells me at times amaze me because so many guys tries to talk to her.
A lot of people tells me to move on, that its just not worth it. But I'm fighting for what I love. She tells me that I'm going through what she went through when we were fighting when we were going out. That she gotten use to arguing all the time. She says eventually we will get over this, but when? Im getting tired of everything already. She tells me she loves me but right now she wants her space and what's to have fun. She tells me I should do the same. I just don't know anymore. I'm in college, I'm about to graduate and I want her to be there with me while I start of my career.

lickemlolly
Aug 21, 2010, 07:48 AM
If she wants space to do her then give it to her.. shes no longer obligated to you... live your life have fun... you are in the part of your life where you are supposed to be going out and having fun... why put your life on hold for something that may never come back? If it happens great but if not then you haven't wasted any time pining over this female who obviously is more concerned with hanging out then having a committed relationship... and news flash.. she probably really likes all the attention she is getting right now from all those guys... and she doesn't have to feel guilty about it either

Devorameira
Aug 21, 2010, 12:37 PM
I don't know if things will ever work out with you two or not, but the best thing you can do is to give her the space she's asked for.

Sounds like she's enjoying the new found freedom.

Honestly now, have you been a bit too controlling in this relationship? Have you allowed her to have friends and spend time with them or have you expected her to spend all her time with you?

talaniman
Aug 21, 2010, 02:18 PM
You want something very different from her and right now she doesn't want to be there to see you start your career. Let her do her thing while she does hers do yours, and eventually you both will be happy you did.

Homegirl 50
Aug 21, 2010, 04:10 PM
You let her do her thing and you do yours. You might find that you enjoy the freedom just like she is.
It could be that because she is not sad and grieving you feel a bit put out. You want her back because she is appealing to others.
At any rate, let her go.

slondono168
Aug 22, 2010, 08:52 AM
Thanks, I appreciate you help. Maybe it is time for me to move on. Its just not worth the stress anymore. She never really wanted to be with her friends when we were together, she always wanted to be with me. Now I know that she let her friends get to her. At least I gave it my all.