aaii
Aug 21, 2010, 04:45 AM
I know it's a lot to read, but I would really appreciate it if you could bare with me. It's all very important to the story and to understand the relationship between us. Thank you!
Ok a little bit about the girl. She's a young Indian girl in her mid 20s (I'm Caucasian), always well dressed and presented. Goes everywhere wearing heels (doesn't even own a pair of flats). Dresses, tights, skirts, but in a respectable way. She's naturally flirty.
After talking to some guys at work for a week, all of them think she likes them. It's like whoever she comes into contact with; they always think she likes them. However, behind their back she’s constantly talking about them to me saying she doesn't see them in that way, doesn't like clingy or pervertish people. I feel like just screaming out well going everywhere in high heels, even to the theme park, you're always going to have guys swooning over you!
We're always going on breaks together at work, she comes looking for me, and I go looking for her. We go for little drives at lunch, having lunch in our cars. Occasionally we go out at the weekend, every few weeks or so. We just get on so well together.
Here's where the issues start... take for example the time I went to pick her up to go to Thorpe Park.
I parked in her road, gave her a call and she came out. I started to program the location into my sat nav and she started stressing out (in a smiley kind of way) her bro/sis/mum might drive past at any moment, "please please let's drive, yeah??"
It just seems her family are a big secret. I feel like she doesn't want me to meet her family, or she doesn't want to be seen with another guy... which goes on to the below…
Her family is planning a trip for a month. She's in the process of trying to book the time off. I suggested if she's too late to book the flights then maybe we could go on holiday. She wants to but it would be difficult because her brother is so protective... apparently he said to her mum "if she doesn’t go on holiday with you then there's no way I'm letting her out the house." She basically told him to **** off and that she's in control of her own life, to which he replied "don't make me tell mum about the time I caught you in a bar with that bloke"
When she told me that again, something just switched in my head. I immediately distanced myself from her. I felt a bit down and started to realise that something big must have happened that night, otherwise her bro wouldn't keep referring back to it.
She’s already told me about that story before a while back, apparently it had something to do with her brother getting annoyed with her mucking around so many different guys. He kept seeing her with a different guy each week. She told him she was going to someplace but he bumped into her in a bar someplace else.
It just makes me feel like I've got to be careful of her.
When distancing myself over the past few days, she's started to notice and keeps asking what is wrong, I say nothing. I'm wondering if this truly is the best thing to do. I miss her when she's not around. I wonder if I should just continue being around her often but just try and not let myself get too attached?
I like her as a friend and know she doesn't see me in a more than friends way, or ever will. Then again why do I get jealous when I know she's going out with other guys, and why did that switch go off in my head?
Ok a little bit about the girl. She's a young Indian girl in her mid 20s (I'm Caucasian), always well dressed and presented. Goes everywhere wearing heels (doesn't even own a pair of flats). Dresses, tights, skirts, but in a respectable way. She's naturally flirty.
After talking to some guys at work for a week, all of them think she likes them. It's like whoever she comes into contact with; they always think she likes them. However, behind their back she’s constantly talking about them to me saying she doesn't see them in that way, doesn't like clingy or pervertish people. I feel like just screaming out well going everywhere in high heels, even to the theme park, you're always going to have guys swooning over you!
We're always going on breaks together at work, she comes looking for me, and I go looking for her. We go for little drives at lunch, having lunch in our cars. Occasionally we go out at the weekend, every few weeks or so. We just get on so well together.
Here's where the issues start... take for example the time I went to pick her up to go to Thorpe Park.
I parked in her road, gave her a call and she came out. I started to program the location into my sat nav and she started stressing out (in a smiley kind of way) her bro/sis/mum might drive past at any moment, "please please let's drive, yeah??"
It just seems her family are a big secret. I feel like she doesn't want me to meet her family, or she doesn't want to be seen with another guy... which goes on to the below…
Her family is planning a trip for a month. She's in the process of trying to book the time off. I suggested if she's too late to book the flights then maybe we could go on holiday. She wants to but it would be difficult because her brother is so protective... apparently he said to her mum "if she doesn’t go on holiday with you then there's no way I'm letting her out the house." She basically told him to **** off and that she's in control of her own life, to which he replied "don't make me tell mum about the time I caught you in a bar with that bloke"
When she told me that again, something just switched in my head. I immediately distanced myself from her. I felt a bit down and started to realise that something big must have happened that night, otherwise her bro wouldn't keep referring back to it.
She’s already told me about that story before a while back, apparently it had something to do with her brother getting annoyed with her mucking around so many different guys. He kept seeing her with a different guy each week. She told him she was going to someplace but he bumped into her in a bar someplace else.
It just makes me feel like I've got to be careful of her.
When distancing myself over the past few days, she's started to notice and keeps asking what is wrong, I say nothing. I'm wondering if this truly is the best thing to do. I miss her when she's not around. I wonder if I should just continue being around her often but just try and not let myself get too attached?
I like her as a friend and know she doesn't see me in a more than friends way, or ever will. Then again why do I get jealous when I know she's going out with other guys, and why did that switch go off in my head?