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meme1me
Aug 20, 2010, 11:44 PM
I have some question/comments on Child masturbation.
I was shocked a few days ago when I walked in to my adopted daughters room to ask her a question and was greeted with pjs off and hands very busy in the nether regions. This totally throw me for the biggest loop of my life. I know she has had 6 very messed up years. She started living with us at the age of 6. I always wondered why she had the heavy covers on her in the middle of summer and why she just seemed like a very sweaty sleeper. I now have my answer but in my upbringing, the only time that portion of your body is to be touched is to clean it and wipe after going bathroom at least until you marry. Speaking about sex makes me uncomfortable and now this going on under my roof is even more disturbing. I do not understand how a child masturbating can be accepted as a society norm. We already know that she may never develop a sense of right and wrong or be able to distinguish between them. She has been in counseling for over 2 yrs and we do not see any significant positives from it yet. She is self destructive defiant and becoming very verbally abusive to my biological children. She has had many problems at school throwing things to actually threatening the life of one child with scissors to the child throat and even physically hitting staff.
What can be done to help her? We are begging for some answers. Should we seek new a psychiatrist and counselor?

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Hello, I know this was posted a while back but I was surfing child masturbation and ran across your question. I have a 6yr old daughter who I just caught a month ago when she was still 5yrs old rubbing her private area while watching TV. I asked her why she does that and she said she likes to sweat. So I don't think she fully understands that its masterbating yet. I also adopted her, but at the age of 3yrs old and she would sleep with her hands between her legs and I thought it was because she didn't want to wet the bed because I would never see her awake and moving her hands in her private early. If you don't mind me asking. What did you end up doing about your 6yr old?? I don't know what to do about it either and she shares a room with my biological son who is 6yrs old and I don't want to have to explain to him what she is doing. Luckily he hasn't notice her doing it.

ScottGem
Aug 21, 2010, 03:27 AM
First its not a good idea to piggyback your question on someone else's. This can lead to confusion. You should start a new thread. So your question has been moved to its own thread.

First, its time to get her some privacy. If you can't add another bedroom, you need to put up some screens or something to give each child some privacy.

Second, I would go to your library and look for books or continue your Internet research on this. You should be able to find books and articles dealing with this subject. The key is not to make her think she is doing something bad or wrong, but to make sure she understands this is a private thing.