View Full Version : My friend wants to have sex with me? I don't know what to do!
countrygirl4
Aug 16, 2010, 09:59 PM
Me and my friend have been really close for a couple years now. Last year he told me he liked me but he had a girlfriend so nothing could happen. But we kept talking. I started to get feelings for him and he knows it. He says he doesn't want a relationship but he wants me. He wants to have sex and more. I don't know what to do! I like him but I don't want to do it then us stop talking. HELP :(
aimee_tt
Aug 16, 2010, 10:07 PM
Don't do it. My friend is in this situation right now. She and her best male friend decided they wanted to do it with each other.
She was a virgin and was desperate to lose her virginity. So they did it. A few weeks ago.
Since then they have done it a few more times but now she wants more. She wants a relationship with him and he doesn't. Currently he isn't talking to her.
If you have feelings for him don't do it. Your going to get attached and hurt.
SweetDee
Aug 17, 2010, 08:12 AM
It sounds like you're not listening to your inner self. You said you don't want to do "it". You're already suspitious that if you do "do it" he won't like you after... and you're right.
Teenage boys are horny. Period! If you don't give it to him he'll get it from someone else. Why go down a path that you're not feeling? What do you get out of it... cus there's NO GUARANTEE he'll want you his girlfriend afterward. You could mess up the friendship all together and you know it...
You don't realize that you're still young and not all grown up even tho' your hormones tell you something else. The true test of maturity is to have the courage to say "No" when you choose it. Your inner self is saying "No" right now to his desire/request. I think you agree.
You have such a short time left to be a kid... and THE REST OF YOUR LIFE to be a woman. Slow down, where's the fire? What's the rush? Once you're an adult you can never go back to being this young kid that has as little to condend with (compared to adult choices). I'm not saying you don't have a lot on your plate, but in comparison to adult choices... trust me they just get more difficult as you age.. lol. :)
"Little kids little problems, big kids big problems". You have a big decision at hand... make the choice that works BEST FOR YOU after all who do you love more HIM OR YOU?
Choose you. <3
ScottGem
Aug 17, 2010, 08:40 AM
Sex is not a recreation. Sex is something shared between people who have deep feelings for each other and are in a committed long-term relationship. Sexual intercourse should only occur when the couple is financially, physically and emotionally prepared to have a child.
This guy does not care about you, he sees you as an object to satisfy his sexual cravings. Probably because his girlfriend won't.
RUN do not walk away from this alleged friendship.
excon
Aug 17, 2010, 08:46 AM
Hello country girl:
Look. From a mans perspective, there's only TWO kinds of chicks - the ones we banged, and the ones we WANT to bang.
excon
Homegirl 50
Aug 17, 2010, 08:53 AM
He does not want a relationship he wants sex. Does this sound like something a true friend would say?
This guy is a horny creep. He has a girl friend and he's talking sex with you. I don't think I would even want him as a friend.
What ever friendship you think you have with this boy will be gone once he gets in your pants.
Lose him girl.