I just want to hear everyone's opinions. To me is being completely selfless to that one person and to do anything to make that person happy.

While making your SO happy is wonderful, love isn't all about making the other person happy. It's about being happy forming a life together, while his/her addition to your life enriches other parts of yourself and your life.

To me, along with what I said above, willingly giving up my own life for another, is true love.

Love is...

Being loved for who you truly are... and loving the other person just the same.

One word...

Unconditional

Love is unconditional..

You accept the other for who they truly are, with their faults and with their good points.

Love is also knowing when to let go. If you can let go of the one you love, then I would be inclined to agree that it is true love.

Nobody can really tell you that you are in love, you just know it..

I have experienced varieties of the concept of love such as infatuation, lust e.t.c.

Love is something much more powerful and you will know when you have experienced it.

Love is Real------Real is Love as John Lennon sung all those years ago..

Sorry Geoff, had to spread the love

Yes, love is also knowing when to let go.

i just wanna hear everyones opinions. to me is being compleatly selfless to that one person and to do anything to make that person happy.
LoL.. I have been married for 9 years and still ponder it. My parents and My Friend and her husband have what I call true love. My parents have been together for 30 plus years and are still crazy about each other like teenagers. Same for my friend and her husband they have so much craziness surrounding their life yet since they have each other it never gets them down! They both said it's a lot of sacrificing. I guess you take the good with the bad? I don't know I don't have that level of love.

Good with the bad, happy with the sad. Yes? But I wouldn't say sacrifices. When it is true love, it doesn't feel like sacrifices, you are not even aware that you are giving so much. Perhaps that's part of true love. Freely giving, without any expectation of a return and yet, all of it is returned, two-fold.

True love, includes friendship, understanding, unselfishness, PATIENCE lol. And believe it or not, there will be days that you will feel hurt, but I guess the difference is, when you express that hurt, to the person that you love, they listen and understand and try never to repeat what caused the hurt.

True love, is actually based in reality. Reality being life, with all it's ups and downs and true love, withstands it all.

True love is not found, but realized. For true love begins with friendship. It is a mutual love between two who do not place conditions on their love for one another.

I think real love is not just a feeling. Its an act. It's commitment. It's respect, admiration, loyalty, compassion and it's trust. While I do believe love can be unconditional, it's not always. If the person you love, be it your husband/wife, child or friend betrays you in such a way that is unforgivable and continues this behavior without a care for you or your feelings, then unconditional kind of flies out the window for me.

Ah, good point momincali; however if this is true love is mutual, then such betrayal would not occur. I believe that "unconditional" love typically does not exist and agree that such conditions as betrayal occure, then it is not really True Love. Again, I really think for it to be true love it must be mutual, hence both parties put the other before themselves and then such betrayal would not occur. There are many flavors of love, but to me, True Love would have to be Mutual and Unconditional.

Oh my God!! I hope all those letters don't crash down on me :)

For this humble human being, Love for a woman is:

Passion (desire, romanticism, charming) + Friendship (reciprocity)+ Compassion (power of JUST giving) = love worth a life time

I hope that comes to me someday

Merry Christmas Everybody :)

Real love is... Growing old together and still feeling young.

How to spread it Tal, but that is so sweet... and true.

And then, when we get really up in years, our memories may slip, just a bit , and we may forget who they are... feel like we met them for the first time and then fall in love with them all over again :). No teeth and all :)

What is 'Real Love'?

To begin with there are many kinds of love. The love of parents, the love children, the love of partners, the love of friends... The love of ice cream!

"Romantic love both exhilarates and motivates us. It is also critical to the continuation of our species."

I don't agree with that. Love and sex don't necessarily go together. Ask the many young single mums who are becoming more responsible for the continuation of our species these days.

However, I do believe in unconditional love - like the love I have for my children and my grandchildren.

I also love my ex - not in love - just love him for everything he did for me. Married twenty years, divorced in 91... Still friends, he's coming around on Saturday to do his Santa bit. Lol

My wish for you all this coming new year…. I wish for you all to discover a thimble full of the love I have known.

I recently had a patient who has Alzheimer's. I believe he experienced true love. While bathing him, feeding him, etc, he kept repeating

"I lost my wife, I lost my love." He lost her almost a year ago, but all he could remember through his horrific disease was his wife.

The pain in his voice was heartbreaking when he spoke of her.

This, I believe, is a prime example of true love.

Yep, I like unconditional - commitment.

Trusting - where ever they are you trust them.

Their little quirks and annoyance don't bother you one bit.

You'd be willing to do almost anything for them - and same in return.

True respect - you believe in them.

You LISTEN to them - I mean really listen and enjoy what they say.

True love is a woman who brings you doughnuts and beer on Sunday mornings.

True love is a woman who brings you doughnuts and beer on Sunday mornings.

YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!! Now we get to the heart of the matter. That is true luvvvvv!

All right this one is for real.

True love is a friendship, respect, and the ability to take someone for who they are and not for what you want them to be.

And ironically enough, true love isn't out there anywhere because it starts with you. When you learn to accept and love yourself then and only then can you share that with someone else.

I like post 18 better, shucks

Chuff,

"True love is a woman who brings you doughnuts and beer on Sunday mornings."

Do you have good Life Insurance? Sounds like she is trying to kill you! Lol lol JOKE!! Honest lol

THe one thing I thought was funny that my mom said when a guy goes into a store by himself without you to get you tampons.I also think that is true but also other things.Love is when you can break down , get mad in front of or throw a fit at and they don't judge you for it.Love is when you dance when no ones around or when everyone's around.Love is your hero, whether the ending of a great book or when you actually got through to Pizza Huton a rainy,stormy night after something terrible happens and you need a pickmeup.Love is different for everyone, everyone has there own opinion of love.For those who believe true love doesn't exist, they probably haven't been surprised by a deep loved one. Part of my opinion of love has been expressed above, but my list goes on.There is a part of me that sometimes thinks a smart caring good father type is what I crave, then it can changes to supermodel or badboy.BUt I believe in destiny, and I think this goes for everyone.Everything happens for a reason.God or whoever you believe in puts you through this for a reason.they wouldn't put you through it if he didn't think you could handle it.

I like to think of it as being totally concerned for another's welfare and being able to accept that person just the way (s)he is.

Sometimes you wonder if what you are feeling is love or lust or something else. I think everyone that is in a realationship no matter what level thinks they are in love of some kind. I love my husband of course but when I truly knew I had experienced love was when I had my son. You can't explain it! You just feel so strongly for their well being and their life in general. People always talk about finding thier soul mate. I don't think you have just one soulmate. I think there are a handful of people and what I mean by that is.. . A soulmate isn't just the person you spend the rest of your life with, I think it is the souls you are meant to connect with in your life. I think that could be a friend, your spouse, your child or all of them. Love is souls connecting. My husband and my son are my soulmates. They are love to me!

One thing about love I don't agree with is the he fairy-tale ending part. You guys are talking about "commitment, and that such thing". I didn't have a very healthy relationship with my last love, it was actually very unhealthy, but I still loved him. We went through A LOT together. I think love is being able to stand by a person through some of the worst times of their life, sticking up for them, and helping them. People make mistakes. It'll happen, truly finding out you love someone is getting over the mistake an still loving them. It took me and year and a half to get over it. I'm not easily forgiving either.
But I still feel the same way about him I did when I first loved him. I think that says something.

I wrote this in another post, but its my definition of love.

To me:

Love renews you, changes you, invigorates you. It makes you look forward to waking up in the morning so you can see that person and makes you yearn to fall asleep so you can dream about them. It encompasses your world and draws you into your own little bubble. It makes you feel alive like you had never breathed before you met your match. It makes every moment sparkle with intensity and possibility. It grows inside your heart, your mind, your soul and blossoms into a beautiful flower to be displayed to the world.

Love is losing yourself in another person, yet retaining the independence of a secure, trusting relationship. It is feeling safe and secure, not wondering if you're 'the one', but knowing you were made for your partner.

Love is living. Breathing. Ever-changing. Ever-growing. Being completely, wholly cherished.

So, that's what love is to me.

That was pretty. It sounds like a quote a famous person might say, you know, like back in the old days. That was definitely my favorite though.

Love is being able to smile at them when they sleep.

Holding them while they are getting sick (ick)

Being able to smile graciously at Mommy-in-law when you want to use all those bad words you never were allowed to use.

Mostly, love is when you just can't find the words to express what you are feeling in your heart, but it just feels good and powerful and those feelings will get you through any difficulties that may be waiting for you.

May all in the world feel loved... true love and be able to give it back in return.

i just wanna hear everyones opinions. to me is being compleatly selfless to that one person and to do anything to make that person happy.
That feeling deep inside that makes you delirious and can also cripple you with pain

True that lol. It's the BEST and the WORST thing in life. Also the hardest, in my opinion.

While making your SO happy is wonderful, love isn't all about making the other person happy. It's about being happy forming a life together, while his/her addition to your life enriches other parts of yourself and your life.

To me, along with what I said above, willingly giving up my own life for another, is true love.

Yes but this is a logical contradiction.


I think real love is not just a feeling. Its an act. It's commitment. It's respect, admiration, loyalty, compassion and it's trust. While I do believe love can be unconditional, it's not always. If the person you love, be it your husband/wife, child or friend betrays you in such a way that is unforgiveable and continues this behavior without a care for you or your feelings, then unconditional kind of flies out the window for me.

Can't agree more. Looks like no one else was able to speak such healthy words. Love is as long "unconditional" as we are not long term neglected and our needs matter. Of course it all starts with a talk. And of course with lots of understanding for somebody's worse day. But if it continues for a long time, it can drive the most loving person simply nuts with pain.

There is recently lots of ideas flying in the air that "happiness is in ourselves" but it is not true. Of course we will be able to attract a person when we are in harmony with ourselves. But yet we all want relationships to make an addition and fulfillment. Later we grow with a bond to that person. And when there is a bond there is always a strong level of disappointment if we are long term hurt. So, no true love is a mature commitment and a lot of understanding, giving and friendship.

But do throw word "unconditional" to the garbage. When you are beaten up and violence occurs are you still supposed to find your inner happiness, rely on self-fulfillment and don't expect anything?

Even Real Love couch on one hand preeches about unconditional love, but on the other hand explains partners their faults and ups "don't sit videogaming all day cause you are neglecting Martha". So, unconditional??

Marriage or even any relationship between two people should not be given up for a stupid reason, and that's it. But no it is not unconditional, we all have needs.