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alterninja18
Aug 8, 2010, 09:46 PM
Like would a women marry a guy who doesn't have a ged or high school diploma?
Cause I still didn't complete my school and I have to study for 5 test but I don't have the will in me.
Would a women marry a guy with no money,if he has nothing?

Enigma1999
Aug 8, 2010, 10:42 PM
Hello,

I am going to give you my opinion on what I would do. NO, I wouldn't...

I will tell you why. Because to me it shows that that man has no ambition what so ever.

I'm not saying that a man who has a low income job is worthless. If there was a man that I fell for and he had a job and treated me well and showed ambition, then yes. If the man does't have "the will in him" then NOPE!

Sorry to be so harsh. Women as well as men want to feel secure in their relationships, in every aspect, and if there is no ambition or will to succeed, then most likely the relationship will fail.

This is just my opinion. Others may feel different.

lickemlolly
Aug 8, 2010, 11:24 PM
Another woman's perspective here... I wouldn't marry a guy with no money no drive and no initiative.. you need to find some motivation from somewhere buddy.. a woman should be one step higher with the person she is with not one step under.. she should be in a better place with him not without him.. just my opinion on that though

kp2171
Aug 8, 2010, 11:56 PM
The first millionare I knew and met personally was a man with no college ed, straight out of HS, who mowed lawns. Built up the business. Sold it. Repeat.

I'm the first in my fam to complete college. My mother received her GED after having me at age 16. Most in my fam are blue collar and service workers.

I have great respect for people in all walks of life, in many jobs.

The issue I have with your post is that you seem to just concede that you don't have the will to focus on five tests to better your life.

So... why would a woman trust you to focus on her life and your life together if it isn't worth your time or effort?

You came here. Signed up. Posted. It means you are concerned. That's good.

So... you need to find something to be passionate about.

You might find someone willing to be with you... a GED, diploma, BS, MS, PhD or other doctoral degree doesn't make you a better man.

But... most people want to believe they are moving to a better place... or that their children will have a better chance... that there is some sense of forward progress.

The best man I've ever known was my grandfather. He barely graduated HS. He was a steelmill worker and a carpenter all his life. His lack of education didn't define him.

He loved his family. He worked hard. He loved fiercely.

That made all the difference in my life.

So... be a good man. You don't have to be rich, but that's no excuse to be neglectful of finances. You don't have to run the company, but you should aspire to be your best... and that usually means being uncomfortable somewhat... aspiring to do more...

So... to what do you aspire?

What, in your mind, is a good life?

lickemlolly
Aug 9, 2010, 12:02 AM
I agree with you here kp I have known very successful business men that didn't have a degree or whatnot.. but to me it sounds like this guy has no will no drive no initiative to have anything.. hes content to not have.. I could be reading too much into that... but that's just what it sounds like to me.. no you don't need all that to be successful but it doesn't sound like he even wants that... which leaves him in a very bad position... I don't have not one female friend that would want to be with a guy that doesn't want something for his life.. if you don't want a GED then that is fine but you have to have some kind of plan for your life other then that if not..

QLP
Aug 9, 2010, 02:29 AM
Got to spread the rep but agree with KP.

It's not about the actual qualifications you do or don't have, but it is about your outlook on life. Negativity and a 'can't be bothered' attitude are just not attractive.

Maybe academic learning doesn't float your boat, but if you are good at working with your hands, or trading (even starting on something like a market stall) or good with people or whatever, then there are lots of ways you can make your way in the world.

So the question is, is it just getting your diploma that is the problem or are you not motivated in any way at all?

Cat1864
Aug 9, 2010, 09:17 AM
Very well said, Kp.

Homegirl 50
Aug 9, 2010, 10:17 AM
If you have n0 drive in your personal life how will you function in a relationship?
I would think a person like that would drag another person down. Not because you have no GED of diploma but because you have no ambition, no desire to do anything with your life. That could become quite a burden in a relationship.

donf
Aug 10, 2010, 08:36 AM
Well, I can tell to that my Lady would not marry me unless I finished H.S. Period! No doubt in her mind.

Funny as it is, when I started working for IBM, in Shipping and Receiving, the only way up was to go to school. I must have been to close to 200 different schools within IBM. Now most of them were product schools because I spent 17 years with IBM as a field technician. The remainder were programming, logic, chip design data stream analysis etc.

Now I'm retired, a babysitter and a student. I went to a Community College here to study the NEC 2008 (National Electric Code).

As a personal insight, the time for a company to spend lots of money educating from within is long over.

Now-a-days, even if you have buckets of "recognised" education, you can be dropped like a hot rock. Basically employees are disposeable.

Now frame that in context with a wife. How can you plan to support her and any children when your education level is so low?

Now from a woman's perspective, what would a woman see if you quit school because it was to difficult?

Since I'm not a woman and I don't for a moment consider myself an equlivent in logic, I actually cannot answer that.

But what I can tell you is having been in a position to pass final recommendations on for the hiring of an individual, the very first I would see is a quitter. Someone, gave up because it was difficult.

What are you going to do when married life gets tough (and believe me it will), get up and leave?

What woman would want that?