It seems (at least to me) that some have men forgotten how to care for the Lady that they have married.

Feeding: Hugs (unlimited per day) are great!
Kisses (unlimited per day) Great as appetizers.
Smiles (unlimited per day)
Talk with her not at her!

Care: Help her around the home, it's your home also and you are 90% of the mess problem (if you are at all like me).
Go for a walks
Let her into your world, any way possible. You are not alone you are married.
Be with her!
Find ways to send your time with her (with or without the toy people you have created)

Treatment: No lies or secrets. They are not necessary and will cause more grief when they are discovered. I know that all to well.
Hold her as close to you as you can, all the time.
Never assume you have the answers to all things, you do not!
Respect this Lady, she has earned that much from you.

And when all else fails love this woman to your eyes fall out. And be very sure to tell that to her and show her that you love her.

I'm pretty sure that the above will help give you a long and very pleasant marriage.

Anyone notice that I did not mention sex, well that's because I believe that sex is a small (but very important) part of marriage. And if you treat your Lady as indicated above then frequency may improve along with quality.

Anyway, that's my non-comical way to improve any marriage. After all, you are married by mutual choice.

donf I always enjoy your posts about marriage.

Your both lucky to have each other and sound like a great team.

Couldn't agree more Red.

Don- can you have a little chat to my husband? Lol

It really gives me faith to hear the words you wrote.

She is one lucky gal.

You do realize that you create a lot of problems for the husbands of the ladies on this site don't you? LOL!

You are a good man Don.

I'm just trying to figure out a way to implant that into my husband's brain so that he will think it was all his idea... ;)

Wonderful message Don! In a hectic world it is far too easy to sometimes forget what is truly important.

Can you bottle your thoughts donf? Sell it to all us ladies to feed to our hubbies. http://smileys.on-my-web.com/repository/Happy/happy-047.gif

Excellent insight..

How do I start this missive?

I don't think that I'm all that different from any other guy on the planet.

To me all a lady has to do to fasinate me is to breathe. My imagination will fill in all the required blanks from there.

I feel blessed to have the Lady I have as my wife. This gal of mine took a snot nosed, punk from the Bronx and transformed me into a man.

Funny thing is there was no force (physical) involved in the eveloution from punk to person.

There were a lot of decision blocks thrown in my direction until I finally caught on to decent behavior on all fronts, not just marriage.

I have said this before and I will keep saying this, "I have never met a woman that so facinates me as my Lady does." Because of this I don't bother looking around, I'm happy right where I am.

It's hard for me to describe, Sure other some women are prettier and can bring on flashes of lust, but those flashes are just that flashes. While I can easily get caught up with the mental images, I know that it's wrong to chase other ladies so I don't.

I'm rambling, please forgive me.

OK, that's it! I'm flying you to Canada for a smack-down with my husband!

It's wonderful that you are happy, and have that balance and peace of mind in your life.

Not to underestimate the hard work that makes up a successful marriage. But, obviously the rewards are great.

Jake,

I’ll start packing for the trip now. I love Canada! Not to date ourselves but Bonnie and I went to Expo ’67 on Montreal, we were 20.

While I appreciate the offer of a smack down, I strongly suggest that you have Bonnie handle the smack down, after all she is the architect, designer and implementer of my development.