My boyfriend broke up with me a little while ago and his reason was that he wasn't ready (real original) but we had been dating for a while before that, so this was (from my point of view) a spontaneous decision on his part. I want to know how I can get him back, as I am sure he still has feelings for me at this point.

ooooo!! I hate break-ups they can be really painful! If I was u, I would go shopping and buy myself some new va-va-voom clothes and get my hair or nails done, this would give your confidence a boost. Then I think u should ask your ex on a few dates with u, but make it clear that u are friends and have some flirty fun (as friends!) then try to find out what he's not ready for and see if there is another chance or if your just wasting your time. If there's no-joy remember.. plenty more fish in the sea! Try to enjoy being single, maybe have some nights out with the girls. Hope this helps and merry xmas! =)

Watch a lot of comedy movies. Get into the happy funny attitude, ask him to watch comedy movies with you.

My boyfriend broke up with me a little while ago and his reason was that he wasn't ready (real original) but we had been dating for a while before that, so this was (from my point of view) a spontaneous decision on his part. I want to know how I can get him back, as I am sure he still has feelings for me at this point.
I was just reading this and it sounds like the start of my drama. I dated my ex for 9 months and it's a year and a half later and we are still hanging out not as a COUPLE and I am not sure what we are. He goes to my work functions we have all the same friends I am stuck in the "HE ISNT READY" yet. I am still confused on what to do in my sistuation but to tell you the truth I tried to move on and I know I didn't try that hard in the beginning and now my feelings are all wrapped around and up for him. I would tell you one thing tell him how you feel be honest don't wait for tomorrow because you will be like me a year later still hoping and wishing!!

Try giving him some space... don't crowd him or it could push him further away. Play hard to get a little bit, but don't let him forget about you. Don't talk to him for a few days at least, show him you're independent and don't need him, it'll drive him nuts! Then make sure when you hang out AS FRIENDS (or so he thinks) you look sexy as hell and flirt a lot, but aren't crawling back to him. If he really has feelings, he'll realize it when you start to hang out again. Maybe he will be ready then. But for now, go out and have fun... BE IDEPENDENT!

Hey, I'm trying to do that Liza, but I'm thinking he doesn't really care anymore. I haven't actually put a lot of effort into it though, so maybe if I try harder and don't give in as easily it will work better. I can make him miss me, but not forget me type thing. Anyway I'll try it and see how it goes, thanks for the advice everyone! (If you have anymore, please tell! Haha)

My boyfriend broke up with me a little while ago and his reason was that he wasn't ready (real original)


Yeah that's weak.


but we had been dating for a while before that, so this was (from my point of view) a spontaneous decision on his part.


And from my point of view he was ready for a relationship since he entered one, was in it for a period, then ended it.


I want to know how I can get him back, as I am sure he still has feelings for me at this point.

Why are you sure of that? For what you write I get the impression he wanted to get out and gave you some lame line to get out. Why do you believe that he wanted it any differently?

My boyfriend broke up with me a little while ago and his reason was that he wasn't ready (real original) but we had been dating for a while before that, so this was (from my point of view) a spontaneous decision on his part. I want to know how I can get him back, as I am sure he still has feelings for me at this point.
I think if you just be yourself and try talking to him.It might just work. Go out and do something together. Let him see what he is missing out on. I know I'm going through this problem.

Well there is no way you can make someone come back to you if they don't want to come back to you maybe he just needed some room to breathe
Talk to him tell him that you still have feelings for him and all
And ask him to be honest about his feelings about you and just tell him
And if he is not ready to go back into a relationship with you then just be friends with him until he is ready

You have gotten a lot of good responses. However, I personally suggest you just move on. Stay friends with him, but make sure that there is distance between you two that way you can keep your sanity. If he really does care about you then he will eventually come back, but don't sit around waiting for him to make up his mind. Move on with your life, even if it's without him. The sooner you do this the sooner you'll be happy again.

I do not believe he has any interest in getting back together with you, nor do I doubt he has those kinds of feelings.

He gave you a lame excuse, trying to spare your feelings so he could get out of the relationship.

While this was all sudden to you, he has thought about this and wants to move on, and therefore, getting him back is very unlikely.

You have gotten a lot of good responses. However, I personally suggest you just move on. Stay friends with him, but make sure that there is distance between you two that way you can keep your sanity. If he really does care about you then he will eventually come back, but don't sit around waiting for him to make up his mind. Move on with your life, even if it's without him. The sooner you do this the sooner you'll be happy again.

I agree. Stop decreasing yourself worth by waiting for this guy to come back to you. He decided he wasn't ready for the relationship and that's his problem, don't make it yours.

Easy... does he have any friends? Hahah just play hard to get... not too hard that u come off as a b**** but just enough for him to want you back