He was the love of my love. My high school sweetheart. Then he broke my heart ten years ago. I left town and came back 7 years later. Then I ran into him. My whole body shivered and until now I still can't get over him. He is in a longterm relationship with someone else but still calls me just to say hi. He says he misses me sometimes but has never suggested we get back together. He is constantly in my dreams. When he sees my family or friends he always tells them how much he loves me, but to me he never does. What do I do? Do you think I stand a chance of ever reviving this love?

The question is do you want to put yourself out there for him to hurt again? Do you truly think that he will not break your heart again, and as you have said he is in a relation ship could you truly break another woman's heart for a second chance to have yours broken?

I don't mean to be harsh but get back togetha relationships that I have seen have not gon well.

But in the end all we can do here is give you advice and the decision on what to do is up to you.

Hope it goes well for you whateva you choose. Mat

Sounds to me like he content with things just being a friendship.. he has never pushed the issue of getting back together and never shown an interest... loving someone is not being in love with someone... there are many of my exes that I still love but don't want to be with.. I care for them deeply but that is the extent to which it goes... but if you are really trying to see about getting him back you could always talk to him about it... the worst he can say is no... and at least at that point you aren't wondering... I would tread carefully though because you said he is in a long term relationship...

No there is no chance whatsoever of you EVER reviving this past love at all. For one he is married, and he is a bit sneaky, he tells others he LOVES you, but not you. A married mans trap for a dumb female to chase him hoping for more, so he cannot be blamed for chasing you.

That you take his "love" declaration for more than what it is, is high hopes for something, and that's DESPERATE. You need to recognize that meeting old friends and lovers, ALWAYS stirs up old memories, and old feelings and can be vivid in your mind and quite intense. Does that mean you keep dwelling on them? NO, unless, you want to keep re-feeling old emotions all the time, at the expense of making new ones!

Should you act on those feelings? Hell no, simply because he is married, and NOT available for a healthy adult relationship.

While I understand your curiosity and fantasy, why be dumb and let any guy who broke your heart before, have a chance to do it again. Tell your brain, to tell your heart to shut the hell up, with that type of nonsense, so curiosity won't kill your cat!!

Forget him, leave him alone, and keep him out of your life, and don't act on fantasy, and curiosity. You do better running head first, as fast as you can, into a brick wall, if its misery and pain you want.

Move forward, NOT back!

Guys thank you very much for your thoughtful answers. Every time I think about him I will revert to these messages. Yes, I definitely must move on!

But please help me to get over him. What do I do when he calls me next time? What do I do if I run into him? I think he knows how I feel about him and that probably strokes his ego. I just want to know how to permanently erase him out of my life. He remembers my birthday and always calls me on that day.

Be civil but excuse yourself quickly. Until you are over him then trying to be close friends just won't work.

If he calls don't answer.. if he texts don't respond... if you happen to bump into him and HE speaks be polite and brief and that's it..

Read the stickies (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/)at the beginning of this forum for some good insight as to how to move on with your life.


Quote by lickemlolly,
If he calls don't answer.. if he texts don't respond... if you happen to bump into him and HE speaks be polite and brief and that's it.. Excellent suggestions. Busy and unavailable is the key to No Contact, without being rude.

Move on and stop living in the past its gone done and dusted and you can't change it.

Do you want to be used?

He has a long term g/f so please back off, don't see into this something that's just not there, he's being friendly no more no less, he's obviously long over you, and you should be long over him, let it go.

You risk making a fool of yourself. With this person, who isn't interested. He's in a relationship if he wanted you he would have left his g/f by now he's just being polite...